5 Best Reads of 2017: Relationships, Raising Kids and a Psychological Thriller

By |2017-12-28T16:36:39-06:00December 22nd, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I wanted to share the books that moved me this year. I set a goal to read 25 books by December 31st. I didn't make my goal. I read 20. I know some people can read a book in a few days. I've always been a good reader but a slow reader. I take my time [...]

How to Build Healthy Relationships as an INFJ: A Podcast

By |2018-09-11T12:50:45-05:00December 20th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Podcast, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

    Hi Everyone! I wanted to share the latest collaboration I did with Bo Miller of The INFJ Personality Show. Some of the questions I answer in this podcast are: How important are healthy relationships to an INFJ? What is one of the biggest benefits of having solid, dependable relationships? How will you know when [...]

When Time is Fragmented, Introverts Stress Out

By |2017-11-05T15:33:57-06:00August 11th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

846-02792532 © ClassicStock / Masterfile I have a client who thrives while moving from one task to the other, often without planning or time in between jobs. He likes having different jobs thrown at him at different times. He rolls with the changes and the barrage of details to be handled. His wife feels [...]

Need Revitalizing? The Energy of Meaningful and the Power of Deadlines

By |2016-12-08T13:29:55-06:00December 9th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The past couple of months, I scheduled the hell out of myself. And it was OK. I managed just fine. I didn't lose it. I didn't get sick. I didn't have anxiety attacks. Actually, I feel energized. Over the last few days, I took time to reflect on why I'm juggling so well this year, when [...]

Are Perfection-Seeking and Self-Reliance Holding You Back from Love? The Avoidant Attachment Style’s MO

By |2019-08-25T15:58:28-05:00October 7th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Since childhood, I've learned to self-soothe and be self-reliant. My parents were/are great, loving parents. I always knew they were there for me if I really needed them. There was a lot of fun, conversation and adventure in our home. They both had personalities that fostered independence in their children. My dad is entrepreneurial, curious and hardworking. [...]

Does Your Mate or Your Community Fulfill Your Emotional Needs?

By |2016-10-05T10:52:21-05:00September 30th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

What is different is that modern life has depleted us of our traditional resources, and has created a situation where we turn to one person for the protection and emotional connections that a multitude of social networks used to provide. Adult intimacies have become overburdened with expectations.  —Esther Perel, Future of Couples: Is the Institution of [...]

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