Need Revitalizing? The Energy of Meaningful and the Power of Deadlines

By |2016-12-08T13:29:55-06:00December 9th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The past couple of months, I scheduled the hell out of myself. And it was OK. I managed just fine. I didn't lose it. I didn't get sick. I didn't have anxiety attacks. Actually, I feel energized. Over the last few days, I took time to reflect on why I'm juggling so well this year, when [...]

Are Perfection-Seeking and Self-Reliance Holding You Back from Love? The Avoidant Attachment Style’s MO

By |2019-08-25T15:58:28-05:00October 7th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Since childhood, I've learned to self-soothe and be self-reliant. My parents were/are great, loving parents. I always knew they were there for me if I really needed them. There was a lot of fun, conversation and adventure in our home. They both had personalities that fostered independence in their children. My dad is entrepreneurial, curious and hardworking. [...]

Does Your Mate or Your Community Fulfill Your Emotional Needs?

By |2016-10-05T10:52:21-05:00September 30th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

What is different is that modern life has depleted us of our traditional resources, and has created a situation where we turn to one person for the protection and emotional connections that a multitude of social networks used to provide. Adult intimacies have become overburdened with expectations.  —Esther Perel, Future of Couples: Is the Institution of [...]

Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

By |2016-09-23T20:42:51-05:00September 23rd, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

How do you know when a relationship has long-term loving potential? Since my last relationship ended, I took time off to figure out what went wrong, then dated casually, then dated a little less casually. I haven't committed to anything serious... At this point, I am hyper-sensitive to potential pitfalls in a serious relationship. My brain and [...]

How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

By |2016-09-15T15:52:42-05:00September 16th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

After my marriage ended, I swore I would never stuff down my emotions and act like everything was OK or remain silent about what I needed from a partner. I was going to be open and communicate effectively. I had no idea how hard it is to know what you want and articulate it. I had no [...]

Does Your Partner Judge or Amplify Your Enthusiasm?

By |2016-09-09T13:16:23-05:00September 9th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  We each got out of the car on our respective sides. I stood up, looked into the sky and noticed the widest most spectacular rainbow arching over the restaurant. I burst out, "Oh wow look at the rainbow!" as I pointed. He looked up, smiled, looked at me and nodded. It was fun sharing that [...]

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