Create a Narrative for Your Life and Move Out of Victimhood

By |2018-03-09T09:07:29-06:00March 9th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Photo by Naletu on Unsplash I am always looking for ways to create resilience, especially for highly sensitive people. I want us to thrive in the world both as individuals and in relationships. I've seen significant research that shows how we interpret our lives makes us less or more resilient. If we take [...]

Healing Your Relationship with Your Eyes

By |2017-02-03T11:42:00-06:00February 3rd, 2017|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Lust is at a distance, love is up close. According to psychologist, Dr. Stan Tatkin, if your relationship needs rekindling, lust is not your best bet. Getting physically near your partner and making eye-contact, are better choices. Mate selection at a distance The primitive parts of our brain assess people at an actual distance to see [...]

Overcoming the Fears That Arise at Relationship Milestones

By |2017-01-06T15:24:47-06:00January 6th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I recognize the fears and threats I create regarding my relationships. I notice how they arrive at key turning points. After five years of dating post-divorce, I have gained a bit of self and relationship awareness. There is still a mountain of wisdom to be learned, but at this point I see my self-sabotaging tactics and [...]

Are Perfection-Seeking and Self-Reliance Holding You Back from Love? The Avoidant Attachment Style’s MO

By |2019-08-25T15:58:28-05:00October 7th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Since childhood, I've learned to self-soothe and be self-reliant. My parents were/are great, loving parents. I always knew they were there for me if I really needed them. There was a lot of fun, conversation and adventure in our home. They both had personalities that fostered independence in their children. My dad is entrepreneurial, curious and hardworking. [...]

Finding and Maintaining a Secure Relationship: Back to the Dating Drawing Board

By |2016-09-22T09:07:38-05:00July 8th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As I trip along in the dating world again— juggling dates, phone calls, texts and hearts (theirs, mine) — I hold close to my chest the self and world wisdom garnered from my last loves. I keep my head up and eyes open for the soft spark of a secure soul, someone who believes in relationship [...]

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