Need Revitalizing? The Energy of Meaningful and the Power of Deadlines

By |2016-12-08T13:29:55-06:00December 9th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The past couple of months, I scheduled the hell out of myself. And it was OK. I managed just fine. I didn't lose it. I didn't get sick. I didn't have anxiety attacks. Actually, I feel energized. Over the last few days, I took time to reflect on why I'm juggling so well this year, when [...]

Two Secrets to Stamina and Resilience for Sensitive Intuitive Introverts

By |2017-11-26T13:38:21-06:00March 18th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As a sensitive introvert, I often feel slightly hindered by my lack of ability to hang for long periods of time in the fast paced, productivity based, always ON, highly stimulating, world. I wish my psyche could handle multiple streams of stimulation coming at me (Ex. several people talking, radio on, phone beeping). I wish I [...]

Do You Rescue or Empower People? How to be Most Helpful

By |2015-12-11T15:07:44-06:00December 11th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I have a tendency to rescue people. I want to protect them from negativity and emotional hurt. As a sensitive person, it is easy for me to empathize with anyone falling victim to sarcasm or cutting remarks. If I perceive someone's light being dimmed or snuffed out, my claws come out and Mama Bear arrives. I know a certain [...]

Introvert Prefers a Sense of Ease to a Sense of Urgency: Making Space for Creativity, Connecting and Authenticity

By |2015-10-02T20:02:48-05:00October 2nd, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo credit to Rona Keller Half of the real problem of exhaustion comes from distraction. The problem is not being too tired. The problem is having a divided mind. — James L. Walpole, You're Not Too Tired to Create. You're Too Distracted. My mind has been divided lately. Creating and (softly) promoting the new website [...]

Dear Sensitive Introvert: You Are Enough, You Are Lovable

By |2015-09-28T08:01:08-05:00September 25th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Picture The Great Gatsby in the mountains. My man and I traveled to Montana for a spectacular weekend of lavish meals, sparkling socializing, serious hiking and serene fly-fishing. The first two days were mind-blowing. My brain buzzed joyfully and my body happily went along for the ride. By the third day my bright-eyedness started to wane. The constant presence of people [...]

Energy Sources for Introverts: From Sleep to Supplements, I've Explored Them All

By |2015-09-22T16:06:02-05:00January 16th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I am always seeking more energy. I need it to be patient and active with my kids. I need it to get through the tasks and responsibilities of the day. I want it to be enthusiastic and warm with my friends. I want it to be fun, flirty and present with my partner. Energy is elusive. I [...]

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