How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met with Effective Communication

By |2016-09-15T15:52:42-05:00September 16th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

After my marriage ended, I swore I would never stuff down my emotions and act like everything was OK or remain silent about what I needed from a partner. I was going to be open and communicate effectively. I had no idea how hard it is to know what you want and articulate it. I had no [...]

Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

By |2016-08-17T14:51:27-05:00July 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Doing fun things together isn't enough for me to feel connected. Being good-looking doesn't mean we'll have a meaningful relationship. Having a lot of money doesn't mean I'll want to grow with you. In the dating world, there's emphasis on who your partner is and what you'll do together. There's a smaller, almost non-existent, emphasis on what [...]

Brenda’s Current Thoughts : What Do You Think?

By |2016-07-15T08:32:00-05:00July 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Hello Everyone! I hope you're experiencing sunshine on your shoulders and mid-summer breezes. I'm living and working casually this summer. My world is full of people lately — old friends, close family, new dates, new mentors and fascinating clients. My introverted soul is up and down with energy, but mostly up. I feel a sense of calm and good. [...]

Is It Possible to Be Steadfast In an Introvert Relationship? Trading Alone Time for a True Partnership

By |2016-02-12T08:47:36-06:00December 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I once read an article in Elephant Journal about a woman who claimed all she needed was a good f*ck and someone to pick her up from the airport. Now that, is keeping it simple. I think of her every time I park my car in long-term parking at the airport. Practical and helpful equals dull, not deep, right? [...]

Introvert Relationships and Sensation Seeking: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate Update

By |2015-09-22T16:06:06-05:00September 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , |

In July I wrote a post titled, Introvert Stops Searching for 'The One' and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate. In it, I described my intention to stop dating for three months and focus on experiencing life's riches on my own. I planned to savor my children's company, spend meaningful time with friends, do nourishing [...]

Introvert Stops Searching for "The One" and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate

By |2016-01-06T09:43:42-06:00July 18th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  What would you do if you knew you were going to be alone for the rest of your life? This is the question Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant journal, posed to his readers. He answered it with something to the effect of (I can't find the darn article, sorry), You would create an amazing career, read [...]

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