Politics Getting to You? Dealing with Conflict and Hostility as a Highly Sensitive Person

By |2016-10-14T15:36:01-05:00October 14th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I dared to jump on Facebook for a bit on Saturday. Minutes into my perusal, I found myself scanning down the comments on an update of the only person I've ever considered un-friending. This person's language and people bashing have turned my stomach on a few occasions. Today was no different. The thread on their post was full [...]

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems :We Need More Than Self-Soothing

By |2020-01-26T12:43:57-06:00August 19th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin's book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I've known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle more [...]

Don’t Wait for Others to Choose You: Find Introverted Intuitive Communities That Feel Like Home

By |2016-07-26T09:00:06-05:00July 29th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

When my relationship ended in April, I felt at loose ends. The routines, love and companionship I'd enjoyed over the previous year and a half, went away. I spent a dark night or two or six wondering what to do with myself, how much I could lean on my friends and if I could get away to visit family. [...]

Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

By |2016-08-17T14:51:27-05:00July 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Doing fun things together isn't enough for me to feel connected. Being good-looking doesn't mean we'll have a meaningful relationship. Having a lot of money doesn't mean I'll want to grow with you. In the dating world, there's emphasis on who your partner is and what you'll do together. There's a smaller, almost non-existent, emphasis on what [...]

Intuitive Introverts and Routine Maintenance: From House Repairs to Relationships, We Can Do It

By |2016-07-01T15:59:45-05:00July 1st, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

In the past month, I've done a flurry of maintenance. From home and auto repairs to dental work and updating my will. Although I enjoy the final results, the constancy and expense of nagging little jobs, stress me out and scare me. The unexpected repairs give me the most panic. They interrupt my perfectly designed schedule of interactive [...]

Empowering the Sensitive Introvert : Moving from Reactionary to Creative

By |2016-06-29T08:29:45-05:00June 17th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

When your sensitivity runs you. As a sensitive introvert, do you feel like your sensitivity and tenuous energy supplies run your life? I feel they do sometimes, but I've found ways to feel stronger, like I can create a healthy meaningful life. As an introvert, I process stimuli deeply. My brain chemistry and functioning affect how I take in [...]

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