Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

By |2016-08-17T14:51:27-05:00July 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Doing fun things together isn't enough for me to feel connected. Being good-looking doesn't mean we'll have a meaningful relationship. Having a lot of money doesn't mean I'll want to grow with you. In the dating world, there's emphasis on who your partner is and what you'll do together. There's a smaller, almost non-existent, emphasis on what [...]

Sensitive Introverts and Confrontation: Owning Your Part and Creating Mature Relationships

By |2016-03-23T15:10:36-05:00January 15th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Calvin and Susie I've been exploring confrontation lately, both confrontation with others and self-confrontation. It seems to move forward in your career, relationships and personal development, you have to learn how to resolve conflict and own up to your contribution to it. It is only through a vast amount of experience and a lengthy and [...]

Is It Possible to Be Steadfast In an Introvert Relationship? Trading Alone Time for a True Partnership

By |2016-02-12T08:47:36-05:00December 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I once read an article in Elephant Journal about a woman who claimed all she needed was a good f*ck and someone to pick her up from the airport. Now that, is keeping it simple. I think of her every time I park my car in long-term parking at the airport. Practical and helpful equals dull, not deep, right? [...]

Introvert Stops Searching for "The One" and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate

By |2016-01-06T09:43:42-05:00July 18th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  What would you do if you knew you were going to be alone for the rest of your life? This is the question Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant journal, posed to his readers. He answered it with something to the effect of (I can't find the darn article, sorry), You would create an amazing career, read [...]

Introvert Dating in Her 40s: It's Good. It's Bad. It's Different This Time Around.

By |2015-09-22T16:06:11-05:00May 2nd, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

Back in my 20s when I was dating the first time, men weren't exactly beating down my door. I'd had two boyfriends in college and a sprinkling of making out and phone calls beyond that. As a teen and twenty-something I was not confident. I didn't feel interesting. I never led conversations at parties. I wasn't [...]

Beautifully High Standards: An Introvert Waxes About Online Dating, Deliciously Independent Partners and Slow Honest Intimacy

By |2015-09-22T16:07:00-05:00April 5th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Being the introverted, freedom-loving woman I am, it would make sense that I celebrate single-hood and relish activities that are self-directed but I’ve found dating to be exciting and expansive as well. Oh sure, I’ve been involuntarily groped in a coffee-shop parking lot and forced to sit through unusually long cat stories (complete with pictures), but overall [...]

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