Evolution Is Not Being In Flow

By |2020-04-17T10:49:53-05:00April 17th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  Finding the exact right mix of challenge and skill that leads us to a fulfilling flow state, is a gift we love to receive. I've mentioned how I achieve the flow state while writing, running, conversing and making love. Time and effort feel fluid in flow. Ideas and meaning float to the surface while in [...]

Going Deep Makes Us Happier

By |2017-10-08T19:18:56-05:00March 24th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Decades of research stemming from Csikszentmihalyi's original ESM (experience sampling method)  experiments validate that the act of going deep orders the consciousness in a way that makes life worthwhile. — Cal Newport, "Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World" Some of you may recognize the name Csikszentmihalyi from my posts on the flow state. [...]

The Power of Reading : A Tribute to an Introvert’s Favorite Pastime

By |2017-01-14T17:11:10-06:00January 13th, 2017|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  For 2017, I plan to keep a list of all the books I read. I'm curious to see how many I finish in a year and what subjects I investigate. I've already added Wired for Love:How Understanding Your Partners Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship and The Luckiest [...]

Empowering the Sensitive Introvert : Moving from Reactionary to Creative

By |2016-06-29T08:29:45-05:00June 17th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

When your sensitivity runs you. As a sensitive introvert, do you feel like your sensitivity and tenuous energy supplies run your life? I feel they do sometimes, but I've found ways to feel stronger, like I can create a healthy meaningful life. As an introvert, I process stimuli deeply. My brain chemistry and functioning affect how I take in [...]

Introversion Isn’t Something to Fix

By |2017-08-20T15:21:17-05:00May 13th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I've come up against some bad old conceptions of introversion recently. I thought we had done a good job spreading awareness about what it really means to be an introvert and why our nature is valuable, but the misconceptions still remain. Jenn Granneman of Introvert, Dear ran into someone at a blogger's workshop who, once they found [...]

Two Secrets to Stamina and Resilience for Sensitive Intuitive Introverts

By |2017-11-26T13:38:21-06:00March 18th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As a sensitive introvert, I often feel slightly hindered by my lack of ability to hang for long periods of time in the fast paced, productivity based, always ON, highly stimulating, world. I wish my psyche could handle multiple streams of stimulation coming at me (Ex. several people talking, radio on, phone beeping). I wish I [...]

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