Action Is Growth for the Introspective

By |2020-02-20T17:04:35-06:00February 21st, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

If there is no wind, row. Latin proverb I found this proverb on my meditation app, Insight Timer. Since my children all row crew, it seemed especially apropos. I also believe it aligns with my favorite saying, "Action dissolves fear". The last few years, I have pushed myself to be an action-taker. Hard to reflect when [...]

What Do You Aspire to Be? How Do You Plan to Get There?

By |2019-11-22T18:50:35-06:00November 22nd, 2019|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Helen Keller Actor and director Edward Norton, described his father as intellectually adventurous and socially contributive. I rolled those words around in my head for a while after hearing them. They resonated perfectly with me. Those words are exactly what I would like people to say about me at my funeral. Intellectually adventurous My take [...]

Creating Growth to Feel Alive: How to Grow in Relationships and In Life:

By |2019-11-13T16:58:10-06:00November 15th, 2019|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

I listened to author and psycho therapist, Esther Perel, talk about affairs on a podcast the other day. She said in affairs people don't turn away from their partners they turn away from who they (themselves) have become. Esther Perel Esther Perel said when people cheat on their partners, they often say, "I feel so [...]

Are You Motivated by Status or Growth?

By |2019-10-25T07:17:27-05:00October 25th, 2019|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Are you motivated by status or growth? This is the question I intend to discuss in this post. In my relationships and in my work, I've been motivated by many things. My first marriage included a huge rise in financial and lifestyle status. I was driven to obtain and maintain that status. Writing The Quiet Rise [...]

Highly Sensitive, Anxious or Avoidant? What You Need to Know to Make Relationships Last

By |2019-08-09T11:38:59-05:00August 2nd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

What has happened since childhood, infancy even, is that a protective shield or pattern was subconsciously created to minimize the pain of feeling alone or of not being seen by a caregiver or partner.

Feeling Low and Thriving Anyway

By |2019-07-05T12:26:39-05:00July 5th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

We all have times we feel let down, abandoned, rejected, hurt or disrespected by someone close to us. We feel angry, sad, lonely, etc. We take it to heart. Sometimes we are conscious of our hurt feelings and sometimes they reside subconsciously because we have learned to suppress truly painful emotions.   I have come to [...]

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