Over the years, I've learned how important attunement or active emotional engagement is in relationships. I have noticed misconceptions around what attunement is and what it looks like. In my own relationships, I have missed the boat horribly many times when it comes to applying full attention or rest periods.
Often the easy way out is to avoid something hard. We all have moments of weakness when we opt for that path. We also have moments of courage when we move toward a difficult situation or conversation. In my experiences of parenting, marriage, coaching, writing, working within the juvenile justice system and as a special education [...]
Are you motivated by status or growth? This is the question I intend to discuss in this post. In my relationships and in my work, I've been motivated by many things. My first marriage included a huge rise in financial and lifestyle status. I was driven to obtain and maintain that status. Writing The Quiet Rise [...]
Check out this insightful and helpful article about vulnerability and connecting with others. This post is by Rob Liu a writer on Conscioused. Rob makes good points about why we often end up feeling lonely and disconnected. Here's one reason Rob mentions in the article: "We reject others before they can reject us. We use our judgments [...]
The precursor to addiction is dislocation. — Bruce Alexander Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Simon Fraser University. In the quote above, dislocation is taken to mean the loss of psychological, social, and economic integration into family and culture — a sense of exclusion, isolation and powerlessness. In the much quoted book on addiction, "In the Realm [...]
At the top of our agenda we must place the task of collecting our children — of drawing them under our wing, making them want to belong to us and with us. — Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids In our busy culture of independence, it is easy to lose connection with our kids and [...]