Going Deep Makes Us Happier

By |2017-10-08T19:18:56-05:00March 24th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Decades of research stemming from Csikszentmihalyi's original ESM (experience sampling method)  experiments validate that the act of going deep orders the consciousness in a way that makes life worthwhile. — Cal Newport, "Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World" Some of you may recognize the name Csikszentmihalyi from my posts on the flow state. [...]

Living as an Intuitive Person in a Practical World: Why You May Feel Lonely

By |2016-01-11T12:11:45-06:00November 13th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I lost a friend this week. I first met Tim in high school. We were never romantically involved, in fact, he dated two of my good friends, but I admired him always. In the 80s he introduced mohawks and the punk rock group, The Butthole Surfers, to our tiny-town high school. I remember learning that he used egg whites to [...]

Introvert Relationships: Using Differences to Grow

By |2015-09-22T16:06:13-05:00February 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Six or seven years ago when my eyes first fluttered awake, I was drawn to individuals who had similar core values and beautiful ways of expressing them. I reveled in layered conversations rich with introspection and feelings regarding the human condition. I sought safe places to practice being the real me. The old definition of introvert (shy, [...]

Mid-Life Crisis or Natural Transition? Hindsight and Jungian Psychology Bring Clarity to an Introvert’s Divorce

By |2015-10-23T22:01:39-05:00January 31st, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

She doesn't want to be married to me. That's the answer my ex-husband gave his mother when she asked, prior to our divorce, if we had a chance at reconciliation. The truth of it stung my ears. What kind of a bitch am I?, I wondered. My own mother questioned me repeatedly about my decision to [...]

Intuition, Feeling, Men, Myers – Briggs and Snowblowers

By |2016-02-26T15:21:42-06:00December 13th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

My mind is buzzing (in the bad way) about my snowblower situation. The weather clock shows snow for this weekend. The snowblower (or thrower depending on where you are from) I ordered from Sears is in. I simply have to pick it up, prepare it to work and clear my driveway. Rent - a - man? The thought and [...]

Introvert Relationships: Love Me or Leave Me But Please Don’t Need Me (Too Much)

By |2016-05-18T10:37:25-05:00August 3rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

One of the gifts of introversion is that we have to be discriminating about our relationships.  We know we only have so much energy for reaching out; if we’re going to invest, we want it to be good. ~ Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power Often this gift of discriminating taste feels more like a burden than a [...]

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