She was the one at the party hanging back from the crowd, but she wasn’t doing nothing. From the look in her eyes, you could tell she was watching the scene and not missing a thing. When you talked to her, she didn’t bore you with superficial chatter about her weekend — she actually had something meaningful to [...]
I recently realized that one-on-one time with my significant other is as vital as time to myself. I need and crave both. They are on equal footing. I used to worry about asking a partner for alone time — so many still don't understand that need for quiet internal recharging. But now I see that I also have [...]
I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago. I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband. A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]
I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago. I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband. A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]
As an introvert, there have been countless times when someone else got the job/attention/raise/praise/boyfriend because they were quicker on their feet, vibrantly outgoing, tireless and more aggressive than me. If you lose out enough times, you start to feel inadequate or incompetent. There’s a fair amount of shame that goes along with feelings of incompetence. I [...]
One of the gifts of introversion is that we have to be discriminating about our relationships. We know we only have so much energy for reaching out; if we’re going to invest, we want it to be good. ~ Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power Often this gift of discriminating taste feels more like a burden than a [...]
