If You Love an Introvert

By |2016-02-19T11:18:33-06:00February 19th, 2016|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

She was the one at the party hanging back from the crowd, but she wasn’t doing nothing. From the look in her eyes, you could tell she was watching the scene and not missing a thing. When you talked to her, she didn’t bore you with superficial chatter about her weekend — she actually had something meaningful to [...]

Introvert Relationships: Requesting Alone Time for the Two of You and Not Just to Run Errands or Have Sex

By |2016-03-11T13:22:57-06:00July 17th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I recently realized that one-on-one time with my significant other is as vital as time to myself. I need and crave both. They are on equal footing. I used to worry about asking a partner for alone time — so many still don't understand that need for quiet internal recharging. But now I see that I also have [...]

The Introvert’s Love Affair with Solitude: Will It Always Be Taboo?

By |2017-01-18T14:29:56-06:00August 9th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago.  I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband.  A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

The Introvert’s Love Affair with Solitude: Will It Always Be Taboo?

By |2015-10-19T11:31:46-05:00February 15th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago.  I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband.  A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

Introverted Not Incompetent:Validating Softer Life Skills

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00October 19th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

As an introvert, there have been countless times when someone else got the job/attention/raise/praise/boyfriend because they were quicker on their feet, vibrantly outgoing, tireless and more aggressive than me. If you lose out enough times, you start to feel inadequate or incompetent. There’s a fair amount of shame that goes along with feelings of incompetence.  I [...]

Introvert Relationships: Love Me or Leave Me But Please Don’t Need Me (Too Much)

By |2016-05-18T10:37:25-05:00August 3rd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

One of the gifts of introversion is that we have to be discriminating about our relationships.  We know we only have so much energy for reaching out; if we’re going to invest, we want it to be good. ~ Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power Often this gift of discriminating taste feels more like a burden than a [...]

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