Am I Really an Introvert? Balancing Nature with Nurture and Finding Contentment

By |2017-04-02T19:46:05-05:00March 31st, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I've questioned my introvert status for the last year. I've done a lot of research on attachment styles and their influence on our behavior and emotions lately. It was starting to look like my need for space and solitude was more a result of my early relationships with my parents and my later relationships with partners. A month [...]

What the Dalai Lama Taught Me About Self-Respect: Guest Post from Introvert Inspiration

By |2017-02-24T17:45:25-06:00February 24th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  Dalai Lama What the Dalai Lama taught me about self-respect Lack of self-esteem, self-respect and self- confidence are the cancers often eating introverts. The internet is full of websites and articles trying to convince us, that we are somehow "OK". If you also lack one of these features, let's try a different approach. [...]

Politics Getting to You? Dealing with Conflict and Hostility as a Highly Sensitive Person

By |2016-10-14T15:36:01-05:00October 14th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I dared to jump on Facebook for a bit on Saturday. Minutes into my perusal, I found myself scanning down the comments on an update of the only person I've ever considered un-friending. This person's language and people bashing have turned my stomach on a few occasions. Today was no different. The thread on their post was full [...]

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems :We Need More Than Self-Soothing

By |2020-01-26T12:43:57-06:00August 19th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin's book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I've known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle more [...]

Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

By |2016-08-17T14:51:27-05:00July 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Doing fun things together isn't enough for me to feel connected. Being good-looking doesn't mean we'll have a meaningful relationship. Having a lot of money doesn't mean I'll want to grow with you. In the dating world, there's emphasis on who your partner is and what you'll do together. There's a smaller, almost non-existent, emphasis on what [...]

Brenda’s Current Thoughts : What Do You Think?

By |2016-07-15T08:32:00-05:00July 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Hello Everyone! I hope you're experiencing sunshine on your shoulders and mid-summer breezes. I'm living and working casually this summer. My world is full of people lately — old friends, close family, new dates, new mentors and fascinating clients. My introverted soul is up and down with energy, but mostly up. I feel a sense of calm and good. [...]

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