How to Earn Our Children’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

By |2017-06-07T12:56:14-05:00June 2nd, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

My children are all teenagers now. It's safe to say, our relationships with each other greatly affect the way we live and feel from day-to-day. There are challenges within our relationships. There are days when security and harmony are absent in our home. I spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to improve our interactions [...]

What a Sensitive Introvert Needs to Relax and Love Freely

By |2016-01-25T15:18:16-05:00January 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I've learned I need cooperative over competitive and kind over cool in a relationship. Interesting intrigues me more than fun. Soul mate over sex god. I'd rather be with someone than do with someone. My spirit needs relaxation, comfort and joy. If my mate needs a challenge or a mission to undertake, let it be to protect my calm [...]

Do You Rescue or Empower People? How to be Most Helpful

By |2015-12-11T15:07:44-05:00December 11th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I have a tendency to rescue people. I want to protect them from negativity and emotional hurt. As a sensitive person, it is easy for me to empathize with anyone falling victim to sarcasm or cutting remarks. If I perceive someone's light being dimmed or snuffed out, my claws come out and Mama Bear arrives. I know a certain [...]

Introverts and Intuitive People Long to be Understood: 3 Ways to Make Others Feel Heard

By |2016-06-25T07:53:19-05:00November 20th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  ...When people feel understood, they don't have to fight, they relax, they soften, they feel seen and their heart opens more. — Jayson Gaddis, Relationship Coach For me, there is nothing more rewarding, erotic, beautiful, intimate or validating than feeling understood. If I feel heard and accepted, my whole body and spirit warm to life. Love [...]

I Feel People and They Feel Me: The Blessing and Curse of Feeling Deeply

By |2016-02-11T10:18:23-05:00June 13th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I witnessed a lot of pain this week. The kind where people curl up fetally and ache deeply. The kind where they cry until they are numb and limp. People are fragile. Physically, mentally and spiritually. True, people are strong and endure magnificently as well, but this week was about fragility. This week was exhausting. I'd never [...]

When Was the Last Time Someone Deeply Listened to You?

By |2015-09-22T16:07:06-05:00November 9th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

When was the last time someone really listened to you? Gave you their full attention with no time limits?  Where they sat down and listened instead of Swiffering their kitchen floor or silently surfing Facebook while you talked on the phone? It's a rare and precious gift — listening.  I used to meet weekly with a [...]

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…
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