The Biggest Wound of Relationships and How to Avoid It

By |2018-01-04T14:36:02-06:00January 5th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The wound that many couples never recover from occurs when one of the partners is in distress and the other does not respond or help them. Their partners are not there for them when they need them most. This kind of aloneness, abandonment, rejection or neglect can lead to the wounded person saying to themselves (often [...]

Feel to Heal: Activating Our Safety System

By |2017-12-01T11:54:48-06:00September 8th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

My therapist said something that stuck with me. She said we need felt experiences that change how we felt before. We need such experiences to heal and grow. She said words will not do it. They touch only on an intellectual level. Intellectual is just the surface. Our core needs for nurturing, growth and connection run way [...]

How to Earn Your Lover’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

By |2017-06-11T18:03:48-05:00June 9th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Last week I wrote about gaining the trust of our children. This week I'm focusing on earning the trust of our partner. There are similarities between the two but as adults we have had more relationships shape us over the years, thus our brains are chock full of ingrained patterns and expectations. We also view our [...]

How to Earn Our Children’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

By |2017-06-07T12:56:14-05:00June 2nd, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

My children are all teenagers now. It's safe to say, our relationships with each other greatly affect the way we live and feel from day-to-day. There are challenges within our relationships. There are days when security and harmony are absent in our home. I spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to improve our interactions [...]

John Denver and Feeling Secure

By |2017-05-05T15:05:46-05:00May 5th, 2017|Categories: Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I'm going to kick it old school this week. I'm going to write strictly from my mind and heart. No looking up new research to support my words. I'm going to write about what I know and feel right now. I've got music on — The Chainsmokers and other groups on Spotify's 'Chill' playlist — and I'm [...]

For Long Lasting Relationships, Respect and Trust Rank Higher Than Communication

By |2016-12-14T09:59:55-06:00December 16th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

We were in a fast-moving security line at the airport on our way back from a family vacation. As the line moved along, I reached in my purse to find my driver's license. It wasn't in the usual pocket. I searched other locations in my purse. No luck. I started to get that panicky sick feeling associated [...]

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