How to Approach Difficult Situations: Steps to Stop Avoiding

By |2019-11-08T08:10:46-06:00November 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Last week I wrote about avoiding or approaching difficult situations and relationships. I spoke of how we all sometimes avoid challenges by: leaving, going silent, diving into distractions (technology/work/television, etc.) or using drugs and alcohol. This week I want to talk about how to approach the things that scare us. Fortify first First, let's prepare by [...]

Core Emotions That Run Your Life and How to Manage Them

By |2019-04-29T12:56:19-06:00May 3rd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

According to Dr. Jonice Webb (Psychologist and author of one of my favorite personal growth books, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect), "A Core Feeling is the one emotion that you experienced the most often, or intensely, growing up. It becomes embedded in the software of your brain. As an adult, this feeling is [...]

Unrealistic Expectations in Relationships: Changing Your Imbalanced Perspective

By |2018-05-18T14:48:26-06:00May 18th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Is your relationship more infatuation or resentment than love and gratitude? If so, you have a one-sided or imbalanced relationship. Within an infatuation you expect there to be all pleasure and little to no pain. Within a resentful relationship you expect there to be all pain and very little pleasure. We can settle for the vulnerability and [...]

Social Anxiety:The Fear of Others Seeing Us Struggle?

By |2018-06-04T11:56:27-06:00May 11th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I got back out on the trails for a run the other day after a long winter hiatus. After my oh-so-slow performance, I've decided I have to stop saying "I'm going for a run" and change it to "I'm going for a jog." My first jog this year happened with my 14-year-old daughter. She recently joined the [...]

Our Deepest Voids Form Our Deepest Values

By |2018-06-04T12:08:41-06:00April 27th, 2018|Categories: Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo by Willian Justen de Vasconcellos on Unsplash Do you know what you value most in your life? Do you REALLY know? Can you get specific? Are they deeply personal values or are they social idealisms you feel you should honor? Or are they values imposed upon you by someone you know? Take a minute to [...]

Free Chapter from The Quiet Rise of Introverts: Getting Past Independence, Principles of Love and Relationship

By |2019-06-23T10:58:04-06:00December 15th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Photo by Nathan Walker on Unsplash Hello! I wanted to give you a small gift. It is a link to a PDF of Practice Four: Getting Past Independence in my book, The Quiet Rise of Introverts: 8 Practices for Living and Loving in a Noisy World. This chapter talks about how hard it is to [...]

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