Collecting Our Children and Partners: 4 Ways to Regain Connection

By |2019-04-23T15:47:35-05:00April 26th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

At the top of our agenda we must place the task of collecting our children — of drawing them under our wing, making them want to belong to us and with us.  — Gordon Neufeld, Hold On to Your Kids In our busy culture of independence, it is easy to lose connection with our kids and [...]

Your Coping Strategies: Are They Still Serving You?

By |2018-11-21T12:50:45-05:00November 23rd, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As we plunge into the holiday season, I thought it would be a good time to take inventory of our go-to behaviors for relieving stress. Internal resources According to Julie M. Simon, LMFT and author of When Food Is Comfort, if we grew up with encouraging nurturing caregivers, we acquire capabilities such as personal competencies and [...]

Temporary Fixes Don’t Cure Loneliness: How to Eliminate the Emptiness

By |2018-06-10T14:28:39-05:00June 8th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Photo by freestocks.org on Unsplash I've noticed something about myself that I'm not proud of. It is something I do when I'm alone, usually late at night. I eat junk food — preferably bite-sized food I can consume one after the other — in large quantities. I sometimes open and finish containers. I eat [...]

Spring Break Post: Family Time in Los Angeles

By |2018-04-05T11:05:07-05:00April 6th, 2018|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Hi Everyone! I decided to sneak in a post for this week even though we're on vacation. This is going to be an informal one. I'm in LA with my kids, my sister and her family. Mark, my fiance (see last week's post), is not with us, but will be with us for all future family [...]

Presence: The Key to Trust and Connection

By |2019-01-21T14:06:47-05:00February 16th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo credit Pixabay What do I believe disconnects us the most from each other? A lack of presence. We have become more and more OK with being in the same room ignoring each other. My sons love to turn on the TV to a Simpson's marathon and then scroll through their phones for the [...]

Performance Based Love Doesn’t Feel Like Love : Parenting So Our Kids Feel Secure

By |2018-09-10T10:53:46-05:00December 8th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I said, "How are you?" to my son the other day after school and he replied, "OK, but I had a math test today that was hard." It was obvious the tough math test weighed on my guy's mind. It seems often my kids' happiness depends on their grades or status in their extra curricular activities. [...]

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