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How to Earn Our Children’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

By |2017-06-07T12:56:14-05:00June 2nd, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

My children are all teenagers now. It's safe to say, our relationships with each other greatly affect the way we live and feel from day-to-day. There are challenges within our relationships. There are days when security and harmony are absent in our home. I spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to improve our interactions [...]

Am I Really an Introvert? Balancing Nature with Nurture and Finding Contentment

By |2017-04-02T19:46:05-05:00March 31st, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I've questioned my introvert status for the last year. I've done a lot of research on attachment styles and their influence on our behavior and emotions lately. It was starting to look like my need for space and solitude was more a result of my early relationships with my parents and my later relationships with partners. A month [...]

Healing Your Relationship with Your Eyes

By |2017-02-03T11:42:00-06:00February 3rd, 2017|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Lust is at a distance, love is up close. According to psychologist, Dr. Stan Tatkin, if your relationship needs rekindling, lust is not your best bet. Getting physically near your partner and making eye-contact, are better choices. Mate selection at a distance The primitive parts of our brain assess people at an actual distance to see [...]

Overcoming the Fears That Arise at Relationship Milestones

By |2017-01-06T15:24:47-06:00January 6th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I recognize the fears and threats I create regarding my relationships. I notice how they arrive at key turning points. After five years of dating post-divorce, I have gained a bit of self and relationship awareness. There is still a mountain of wisdom to be learned, but at this point I see my self-sabotaging tactics and [...]

Is He or She Long-Term Love Material?

By |2016-09-23T20:42:51-05:00September 23rd, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

How do you know when a relationship has long-term loving potential? Since my last relationship ended, I took time off to figure out what went wrong, then dated casually, then dated a little less casually. I haven't committed to anything serious... At this point, I am hyper-sensitive to potential pitfalls in a serious relationship. My brain and [...]

Do You Feel Supported? Exploring Core Fears and How Relationships Heal Them

By |2016-08-12T10:10:51-05:00August 12th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

A month ago, I found out someone I used to date was facing an organ transplant. They have a Caring Bridge Site and anticipate six months in the hospital. We dated for only two short months. I suspect his serious health conditions gave him the introspective, passionate and sensitive outlook on life I found so attractive. Toward the end [...]

Brenda’s Random Personal Introverted Vacation and Dating Thoughts

By |2016-08-05T15:35:47-05:00August 5th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I was on vacation last week and I'm busy playing catchup with housework, career work, kid requests and many other life pulls. So, unfortunately or fortunately, this week you get my mostly unedited, half-processed thoughts and observations to review. Are introverts funny? As I said, I was on vacation last week. We visited family in Tennessee. [...]

Coaching

By |2021-06-25T13:18:07-05:00August 25th, 2015|

What I offer as a Personal Coach: In-depth knowledge of personality types and their preferences to help you gain self and relationship awareness. Concrete strategies and real life examples to help you build or resurrect respectful loving relationships. Years of research, writing and  experience with conflict management and attachment styles. Ten years of writing and guiding on space2live, [...]

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

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