What Past Wounds Haunt You Today?

By |2018-02-11T16:52:14-06:00February 9th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo credit Magyar Tehrani via Unsplash I got really excited the other night while the kids and I played Trivial Pursuit with our Amazon Alexa. I knew the answer to a question about one of the latest space rovers so I exclaimed, "I know that one!" The problem was it was not my turn [...]

Finding and Losing Emotional Connection Again and Again

By |2017-07-11T15:40:35-05:00July 14th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  "...love is a continual process of seeking and losing emotional connection, and reaching out to find it again. The bond of love is a living thing. If we don't attend to it, it naturally begins to wither." — Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight In our world of endless distractions and to do lists, it is [...]

How to Earn Your Lover’s Trust and Improve the Relationship

By |2017-06-11T18:03:48-05:00June 9th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Last week I wrote about gaining the trust of our children. This week I'm focusing on earning the trust of our partner. There are similarities between the two but as adults we have had more relationships shape us over the years, thus our brains are chock full of ingrained patterns and expectations. We also view our [...]

John Denver and Feeling Secure

By |2017-05-05T15:05:46-05:00May 5th, 2017|Categories: Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I'm going to kick it old school this week. I'm going to write strictly from my mind and heart. No looking up new research to support my words. I'm going to write about what I know and feel right now. I've got music on — The Chainsmokers and other groups on Spotify's 'Chill' playlist — and I'm [...]

Two Rituals That Calm Your Nervous System and Strengthen Your Relationship

By |2017-01-26T13:18:06-06:00January 27th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Dr. Stan Tatkin says we can and should be our partner's best anti-depressant and anti-anxiety agent. That seems like a tall order to me, but I have learned so much about attachment theory, couple bubbles and neurobiology from Dr. Tatkin, I'm willing to trust him. Dr. Tatkin is fond of saying partners are in each other's care. [...]

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