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Does Your Partner Accept Your Influence? The Importance of Sharing Decision-Making in a Relationship
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Does Your Partner Accept Your Influence? The Importance of Sharing Decision-Making in a Relationship

Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships

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Does Your Partner Accept Your Influence? The Importance of Sharing Decision-Making in a Relationship

By Brenda Knowles|2018-10-31T11:59:21-05:00November 2nd, 2018|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: conflict, contempt, divorce, dominance, influence, John Gottman, Marriage, power, relationships, Robert Sapolsky, Stress, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work|

I recently figured out one of the striking blows that destroyed my marriage. During the last five years of our marriage, I did not feel like my words or actions were given any credence in conversations, problem-solving or decision-making. My husband did not accept my influence. I hope by casting light on this common issue, someone [...]

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Walking on Eggshells: The Relationship Hazard of Being Too Careful
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Walking on Eggshells: The Relationship Hazard of Being Too Careful

Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships

Walking on Eggshells: The Relationship Hazard of Being Too Careful

By Brenda Knowles|2018-05-08T12:19:28-05:00May 4th, 2018|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: communication, conflict, confrontation, divorce, Dr. Demartini, maturity, relationships, values, withdrawal|

Photo via Pixabay Do you and your partner never fight but never connect intimately either? Do you feel like you give and give but don't get much in return? Do you constantly worry about upsetting your partner? If you feel like it is extremely important to keep the peace at home, it is possible [...]

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Love After Divorce : Knowing When to Commit Again
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Love After Divorce : Knowing When to Commit Again

Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships

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Love After Divorce : Knowing When to Commit Again

By Brenda Knowles|2018-04-05T10:40:22-05:00March 30th, 2018|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: dating, divorce, love, Marriage, relationships, responsiveness, security, values|

Photo credit Sylvia Bartyzel via Unsplash I have been on my own since January of 2012. In those six plus years, I've experienced so much. I've dated, loved, dumped and been dumped. The whole time learning how to find a secure partner and how to be a good partner. The whole time experiencing in the [...]

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How We Move from Insecure to Secure Relationships: 3 Stages
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How We Move from Insecure to Secure Relationships: 3 Stages

Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships

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How We Move from Insecure to Secure Relationships: 3 Stages

By Brenda Knowles|2018-01-09T18:57:36-06:00January 12th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: anxious attachment style, avoidant, CEN, divorce, emotional neglect, growth, healing, highly sensitive person, insecure attachment, Introversion, maturity, personal evolution, relationships, secure attachment|

Photo by Katherine Chase on Unsplash For those of us with attachment trauma or insecurity in our pasts, there is often a pattern we follow on our way to finding satisfying and secure relationships. If you don't remember what attachment trauma or an insecure relationship are, here are definitions. Secure attachment with a caregiver [...]

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Growing Through Conflict: How Relationships Thrive after the Honeymoon Phase
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Growing Through Conflict: How Relationships Thrive after the Honeymoon Phase

Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships

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Growing Through Conflict: How Relationships Thrive after the Honeymoon Phase

By Brenda Knowles|2017-10-10T12:33:52-05:00September 29th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: attachment, automation in relationships, conflict, fighting, growth, relationships, The Quiet Rise of Introverts|

This post contains an excerpt from my book, The Quiet Rise of Introverts: 8 Practices for Living and Loving in a Noisy World, available now on Amazon and in select bookstores. The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. — Joseph Joubert There was a lot of conflict between my sister and me [...]

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We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?
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We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce

We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

By Brenda Knowles|2016-11-18T14:39:11-06:00November 18th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce|Tags: being observed, Blue Ribbon Schools, discipline, education, learning, micromanagement, paraprofessionals, parenting, schools, Stress|

I walked down the hallway of a local elementary school. The smell of school lunches, pencils and tempera paint embedded the walls and low-pile carpet. As I looked for my assigned first-grade classroom, a boy (4th grade maybe) made eye-contact with me, smiled and said, "Hi, how are you today?" I resisted the urge to look behind me [...]

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