The mental, spiritual and social changes associated with the breakdown of a marriage.

Can Different Personality Types Work in Love? Will Differences Enrich or Challenge Your Relationship?

By |2016-02-12T15:36:40-06:00February 12th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Understanding, appreciation and respect make a lifelong marriage possible and good. Similarity of type is not important, except as it leads to these three. Without them, people fall in love and out of love again, with them, a man and a woman will become increasingly valuable to each other and know that they are  contributing to [...]

Stop Settling for Mediocrity: Jump from Comfortable to Incomparable

By |2016-03-16T09:15:34-05:00February 5th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I do this thing where I let myself stay in the shower after doing all the necessary sudsing and rinsing. I stay blissfully immersed in the hot water until the current song on the radio is over. Sometimes that gives me an extra three minutes of glorious steamy reflection time and sometimes it gives me 30 seconds. [...]

Sensitive Introverts and Confrontation: Owning Your Part and Creating Mature Relationships

By |2016-03-23T15:10:36-05:00January 15th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Calvin and Susie I've been exploring confrontation lately, both confrontation with others and self-confrontation. It seems to move forward in your career, relationships and personal development, you have to learn how to resolve conflict and own up to your contribution to it. It is only through a vast amount of experience and a lengthy and [...]

When Divorce Looms: Suggestions and Understanding for Those In a Dying Relationship

By |2016-08-01T07:32:09-05:00October 30th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Marriage is hard. Long-term relationships are hard too. I experienced the slow disintegration of my marriage and I've been privy to a few other marriage-in-flames stories, stories where the plane is going down and the relationship won't survive, although it may flame out slowly. It seems the route of choice is often years of hellish tension with barely tolerated tolerance followed [...]

7 Triggers of Over-stimulation and Over-sensitivity: How to Manage Them So You Can Be With People

By |2015-09-22T16:05:56-05:00September 4th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

NY Magazine We rode along the Dakota Trail near the shoreline of Lake Minnetonka. My man and I rode out front on his fun red tandem bike. My kids trailed behind us like teenage ducklings. We waved and rang our bells at neighbors we passed and strangers who smiled. The sun shone through the trees overhead and a cool [...]

Living with Negative People: Owning Your Nature and Growing Despite Them

By |2015-10-23T21:44:03-05:00August 28th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

She never even knew she had a choice and that's what happens When the only voice she hears is telling her she can't You stupid boy Oh, you always had to be right but now you've lost The only thing that ever made you feel alive — Stupid Boy by Keith Urban, lyrics by [...]

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