Finding and Losing Emotional Connection Again and Again

By |2017-07-11T15:40:35-05:00July 14th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  "...love is a continual process of seeking and losing emotional connection, and reaching out to find it again. The bond of love is a living thing. If we don't attend to it, it naturally begins to wither." — Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight In our world of endless distractions and to do lists, it is [...]

Don’t Wait for Others to Choose You: Find Introverted Intuitive Communities That Feel Like Home

By |2016-07-26T09:00:06-05:00July 29th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

When my relationship ended in April, I felt at loose ends. The routines, love and companionship I'd enjoyed over the previous year and a half, went away. I spent a dark night or two or six wondering what to do with myself, how much I could lean on my friends and if I could get away to visit family. [...]

Sensitive Introverts Need Space AND Responsiveness

By |2017-01-26T08:06:56-06:00May 27th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I've been thinking about space lately. Now that my man is gone, there is more space in my life. Sometimes that feels energizing and free. Other times it feels empty and heavy. It so happens that this week my children are spending extra time with their dad. I miss them. My home has too much space [...]

Is It Love or Are You Just Filling a Void? Mastering Aloneness and Creating a Real Relationship

By |2017-12-14T15:22:13-06:00April 18th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I experienced a dating drought at the beginning of this year. My phone stopped ringing, my Match.com inbox dried up and I felt untethered. I felt real loneliness for the first time since my ex-husband moved out two years ago. It was strange. My whole being seemed to wither. I contributed meagerly to conversations. Writing ideas were few and [...]

Introvert Relationships: We Don’t Always Want To Be Alone

By |2017-11-26T13:28:32-06:00May 10th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I noticed the tiny lump last Friday as I undressed and got ready for bed, a small rise on my right side just above the top rib.  My fingers gently but urgently palpitated the heart-sinking intruder, the little anomaly that I knew would make my mind whirr well into the night. Yes, it was real.  No, [...]

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