Men and Respect:Women, Questioning and Intuition

By |2016-09-02T15:39:11-05:00September 2nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

“A man’s highest need is to feel respect, whereas a woman’s highest need is to feel loved.” — Marriage expert and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn In Shaunti Feldhahn's article, The 5 Respect Needs of Men, she says men feel disrespected and not loved if their partners question their decisions or abilities. The biggest injustice and hurtful act of disrespect [...]

Calming Each Other’s Nervous Systems :We Need More Than Self-Soothing

By |2020-01-26T12:43:57-06:00August 19th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin's book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I've known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle more [...]

Do You Feel Supported? Exploring Core Fears and How Relationships Heal Them

By |2016-08-12T10:10:51-05:00August 12th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

A month ago, I found out someone I used to date was facing an organ transplant. They have a Caring Bridge Site and anticipate six months in the hospital. We dated for only two short months. I suspect his serious health conditions gave him the introspective, passionate and sensitive outlook on life I found so attractive. Toward the end [...]

Beyond Fun, Sex and Coffee : Moving Past Dating and Mastering Mature Relationships

By |2016-08-17T14:51:27-05:00July 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Doing fun things together isn't enough for me to feel connected. Being good-looking doesn't mean we'll have a meaningful relationship. Having a lot of money doesn't mean I'll want to grow with you. In the dating world, there's emphasis on who your partner is and what you'll do together. There's a smaller, almost non-existent, emphasis on what [...]

Brenda’s Current Thoughts : What Do You Think?

By |2016-07-15T08:32:00-05:00July 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Hello Everyone! I hope you're experiencing sunshine on your shoulders and mid-summer breezes. I'm living and working casually this summer. My world is full of people lately — old friends, close family, new dates, new mentors and fascinating clients. My introverted soul is up and down with energy, but mostly up. I feel a sense of calm and good. [...]

Finding and Maintaining a Secure Relationship: Back to the Dating Drawing Board

By |2016-09-22T09:07:38-05:00July 8th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As I trip along in the dating world again— juggling dates, phone calls, texts and hearts (theirs, mine) — I hold close to my chest the self and world wisdom garnered from my last loves. I keep my head up and eyes open for the soft spark of a secure soul, someone who believes in relationship [...]

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