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Introverts and Intuitive People Long to be Understood: 3 Ways to Make Others Feel Heard

By |2016-06-25T07:53:19-05:00November 20th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  ...When people feel understood, they don't have to fight, they relax, they soften, they feel seen and their heart opens more. — Jayson Gaddis, Relationship Coach For me, there is nothing more rewarding, erotic, beautiful, intimate or validating than feeling understood. If I feel heard and accepted, my whole body and spirit warm to life. Love [...]

Living as an Intuitive Person in a Practical World: Why You May Feel Lonely

By |2016-01-11T12:11:45-06:00November 13th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I lost a friend this week. I first met Tim in high school. We were never romantically involved, in fact, he dated two of my good friends, but I admired him always. In the 80s he introduced mohawks and the punk rock group, The Butthole Surfers, to our tiny-town high school. I remember learning that he used egg whites to [...]

When Divorce Looms: Suggestions and Understanding for Those In a Dying Relationship

By |2016-08-01T07:32:09-05:00October 30th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Marriage is hard. Long-term relationships are hard too. I experienced the slow disintegration of my marriage and I've been privy to a few other marriage-in-flames stories, stories where the plane is going down and the relationship won't survive, although it may flame out slowly. It seems the route of choice is often years of hellish tension with barely tolerated tolerance followed [...]

Loving and Growing as a Sensitive Soul In an Intimate Relationship

By |2015-10-17T12:39:30-05:00October 16th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Like most people, I want love in my life. I want someone to ask me how my day was, make me laugh at life and myself, help me get through overwhelming to do lists, travel with me to unexplored places, make love with me before dawn, hold me until I relax and allow me to cherish [...]

Ms. Deeply Feeling Loves Mr. Intensely Logical: How to Make a Thinker/Feeler Relationship Work

By |2017-06-23T14:46:04-05:00October 9th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

dreamer girl I've always been sensitive. My feelings and emotions sit just below my thin skin, waiting to pour out at the slightest positive or negative provocation. When I was a child, all my dad had to do was raise his voice and I was in tears. No wonder my mom always said, Brenda [...]

Introvert Prefers a Sense of Ease to a Sense of Urgency: Making Space for Creativity, Connecting and Authenticity

By |2015-10-02T20:02:48-05:00October 2nd, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo credit to Rona Keller Half of the real problem of exhaustion comes from distraction. The problem is not being too tired. The problem is having a divided mind. — James L. Walpole, You're Not Too Tired to Create. You're Too Distracted. My mind has been divided lately. Creating and (softly) promoting the new website [...]

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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i… Read more
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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring… Read more
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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un… Read more
Gary
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t… Read more
Evan H.
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need … Read more
D.R.

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