Repairing Ruptures in Your Connections with Family, Partners and Yourself

By |2017-11-17T13:44:35-06:00November 17th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

photo credit Ib Wira Dyatmika Every relationship has times of disconnection. These times are not concerning unless 1. They are constant and highly stressful or 2. There are no repairs made. In fact, relationships where there are ruptures in connection but consistent and quick repairs, tend to have the most resilience. Disruptions in therapy or [...]

Do You See Good People or Bad People? Using Mindfulness to Improve Our Outlook

By |2017-11-11T09:57:03-06:00November 10th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  I believe most people are good. This belief may be due to the upbringing and life experiences I've encountered. It may be because I have a learned habit of reframing most experiences to highlight the positive. Whatever the reason I know not everyone agrees with me. I had a long-term love who openly declared he [...]

5 Ways to Help Teens Feel Less Anxious

By |2017-11-03T12:51:57-05:00November 3rd, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Last week I wrote a post about the increase in severe anxiety among privileged teens. This week I want to talk about how to reduce the anxiety. Severe anxiety debilitates. If a child (or adult) avoids everything that makes them uncomfortable their life is seriously hindered. What can we do about the trend of avoidance and [...]

Why the Increase in Anxiety Among Privileged Kids?

By |2017-11-01T11:41:03-05:00October 27th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

According to the New York Times article titled, "Why Are More American Teenagers Than Ever Suffering from Severe Anxiety?", 1/3 of adolescents and adults  suffer from overactive fight or flight responses and privileged teens are among the most emotionally distressed. Photo by Sasha Rudensky for The New York Times I've experienced first-hand the increase in [...]

What We Measure, We Make Happen: Building Self-Discipline and Reducing Anxiety

By |2017-10-20T14:47:39-05:00October 20th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I read a quote recently that said, "We manage what we measure." It was from one of my favorite contemporary non-fiction Gretchen Rubin writers, Gretchen Rubin. I've been thinking about that. Do we? Do we even want to manage? I hate micro-managing. Managing a budget is no fun. Managing a household can be a [...]

A Guide to Spirituality For Introverts

By |2017-10-17T18:22:32-05:00October 18th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , |

This is a pop-up guest post in the middle of the week to remind you to pause and breathe. Pay attention. Reflect. Evolve. Enjoy! Spirituality is the focus on the self, personal growth and understanding. For introverts, this can be daunting. It means stepping away from the laptop or book and spending time with our inner most [...]

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