The Self-Consciousness of the Introverted: What Causes It?

By |2018-08-31T12:44:00-05:00August 31st, 2018|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Photo by Kyle Glenn on Unsplash I've written about the flushed cheeks and blank mind I experience when suddenly finding myself the center of attention or when called upon to speak extemporaneously among non-friends. Many writers and introverted people seem to experience this freeze of words, awkward physical movement and self-consciousness while being observed. [...]

Why Extroverts Like Action and Introverts Like Calm: The Brain Chemistry Behind Introversion and Extroversion

By |2015-10-19T12:47:02-05:00November 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

    Ever wonder why some people require thrills and action in order to get engaged in life while others are content reading a book, listening to music or staring at artwork? What physiologically makes an introvert an introvert and an extrovert an extrovert? There is more to the introvert/extrovert comparison than how each one socializes. It's in your [...]

Introverted Not Incompetent:Validating Softer Life Skills

By |2015-09-22T16:07:07-05:00October 19th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

As an introvert, there have been countless times when someone else got the job/attention/raise/praise/boyfriend because they were quicker on their feet, vibrantly outgoing, tireless and more aggressive than me. If you lose out enough times, you start to feel inadequate or incompetent. There’s a fair amount of shame that goes along with feelings of incompetence.  I [...]

When Parenting Overwhelms:Tough Days as an Introverted Parent

By |2015-10-23T20:27:29-05:00January 27th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Most of my introvert friends are childless or have one child.  They seemed to have instinctively known their child-rearing capabilities and stopped while they were ahead.  I on the other hand barreled through every red flag that warned me.  I overlooked the need for long spans of time to myself.  I didn't notice how much I [...]

There’s Nothing Wrong with You. You’re an Introvert.

By |2015-10-26T12:31:15-05:00August 12th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  It is 2006 and I have everything.  My husband is making professional athlete money as an executive at a hedge fund.  We have three healthy, beautiful, active, children.  We recently moved into a spacious and impressive home.  I am getting to know people by throwing dinner parties for my husband’s co-workers and attending neighborhood Bunco [...]

An Introvert Prepares for Summer Parenting

By |2017-05-31T11:26:43-05:00June 3rd, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |

It’s midnight and my eleven year old son, Bryce, and I are camping out on my dad’s property.  It’s not ideal camping weather.  There’s a chance of a storm and the thermometer hovers around 45 degrees. The plump air mattress under our two-man tent uses up a precious four inches of floor to ceiling space.  Bryce [...]

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