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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
Shilpa CB
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
M.G.
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un…
Gary
I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…
J.K.
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie

“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would…

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Do Your Friends and Family Think It’s Weird to Be an Introvert? Getting Past the Stereotype and Doing Work You Love

By | 2015-10-26T08:21:24-05:00 February 27th, 2015|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I've had to stick up for my temperament and my writing many times. It never seems to get easier. I still feel I'm saying the words 'awkward' or 'weird' when I say I'm an introvert. I still hesitate to say I'm a writer when asked what I do as a career. Both words seem to need justification, validation [...]

Is It Selfish to Choose Passion and Work Over Family?

By | 2015-09-22T16:06:57-05:00 July 26th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

   Will I always feel a pang of guilt about loving time alone to work and write? Is it possible the best gift I can offer the world lies outside my role as a mother?  Baby-sitters allowed me to preserve my sanity, to the extent that I have it. I always had at least three hours [...]

A Divorced Introvert: Evolving Not Dissolving Post-Breakup

By | 2015-10-24T15:32:02-05:00 March 29th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I didn't fall apart during or after the divorce like everyone expected. I was worried as hell about how it would affect our children, scared to death about taking care of everything myself (how would I find the energy?) but ultimately not afraid to be alone.  I knew I was on my way.  I was doing [...]

Is It Selfish to Choose Passion and Work Over Family?

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:20-05:00 August 19th, 2011|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , |

   …we did spend a good part of our income on household help.  I don’t regret that at all.  Baby-sitters allowed me to preserve my sanity, to the extent that I have it.  I always had at least three hours in the morning to write.  I couldn’t have given up writing.  I think I could have [...]

There’s Nothing Wrong with You. You’re an Introvert.

By | 2015-10-26T12:31:15-05:00 August 12th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  It is 2006 and I have everything.  My husband is making professional athlete money as an executive at a hedge fund.  We have three healthy, beautiful, active, children.  We recently moved into a spacious and impressive home.  I am getting to know people by throwing dinner parties for my husband’s co-workers and attending neighborhood Bunco [...]

Touring Without Guilt: Balancing Your Passions With Raising a Family

By | 2015-09-22T16:07:50-05:00 March 18th, 2011|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Years ago I watched a Larry King interview with country music legend, Garth Brooks. Garth spoke openly about the reasons for his retirement in 2001. His first marriage was ending. He’d been on the road for months at a time and hadn’t been a good partner. He felt guilty for not being home with [...]