What is different is that modern life has depleted us of our traditional resources, and has created a situation where we turn to one person for the protection and emotional connections that a multitude of social networks used to provide. Adult intimacies have become overburdened with expectations. —Esther Perel, Future of Couples: Is the Institution of [...]
How do you know when a relationship has long-term loving potential? Since my last relationship ended, I took time off to figure out what went wrong, then dated casually, then dated a little less casually. I haven't committed to anything serious... At this point, I am hyper-sensitive to potential pitfalls in a serious relationship. My brain and [...]
After my marriage ended, I swore I would never stuff down my emotions and act like everything was OK or remain silent about what I needed from a partner. I was going to be open and communicate effectively. I had no idea how hard it is to know what you want and articulate it. I had no [...]
We each got out of the car on our respective sides. I stood up, looked into the sky and noticed the widest most spectacular rainbow arching over the restaurant. I burst out, "Oh wow look at the rainbow!" as I pointed. He looked up, smiled, looked at me and nodded. It was fun sharing that [...]
“A man’s highest need is to feel respect, whereas a woman’s highest need is to feel loved.” — Marriage expert and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn In Shaunti Feldhahn's article, The 5 Respect Needs of Men, she says men feel disrespected and not loved if their partners question their decisions or abilities. The biggest injustice and hurtful act of disrespect [...]
The chapter titled, Do Your Nervous Systems Play Well?, in marriage therapist, Stan Tatkin's book, Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate, grabbed my attention as a highly sensitive person. I've known for seven years that my nervous system is more easily aroused than about 80% of the population. I startle more [...]
