Reclaiming Your Space and Loving Yourself

By |2019-08-25T16:01:49-05:00August 23rd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It all came to a head this morning when I noticed Mark had put two more bottles of shampoo and facial cleanser on our bathroom shelf. Space on this shelf is limited. There really is not room for all of the bottles on there now. I had an instant reaction of anger. I felt like my [...]

Building Healthy Relationships Through Vulnerability

By |2019-08-18T18:57:10-05:00August 16th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Check out this insightful and helpful article about vulnerability and connecting with others. This post is by Rob Liu a writer on Conscioused. Rob makes good points about why we often end up feeling lonely and disconnected. Here's one reason Rob mentions in the article: "We reject others before they can reject us. We use our judgments [...]

What Were Your Parents’ Emotional States When You Were a Child?

By |2019-10-20T09:54:33-05:00August 9th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

“Of all the environments, the one that most profoundly shapes the human personality is the invisible one: the emotional atmosphere in which the child lives during the critical early years of brain development. The invisible environment has little to do with parenting philosophies or parenting style. It is a matter of intangibles, foremost among them being [...]

Highly Sensitive, Anxious or Avoidant? What You Need to Know to Make Relationships Last

By |2019-08-09T11:38:59-05:00August 2nd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

What has happened since childhood, infancy even, is that a protective shield or pattern was subconsciously created to minimize the pain of feeling alone or of not being seen by a caregiver or partner.

ADD, Sensitivity and the Emotional Environment

By |2019-10-13T15:56:17-05:00July 12th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

People with ADD are hypersensitive. That is not a fault or a weakness of theirs, it is how they were born. — Dr. Gabor Maté, "Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It" I highly recommend the book "Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It" [...]

Feeling Low and Thriving Anyway

By |2019-07-05T12:26:39-05:00July 5th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

We all have times we feel let down, abandoned, rejected, hurt or disrespected by someone close to us. We feel angry, sad, lonely, etc. We take it to heart. Sometimes we are conscious of our hurt feelings and sometimes they reside subconsciously because we have learned to suppress truly painful emotions.   I have come to [...]

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