Personal Update: Introversion and Arm’s – Length Relationships

By |2016-06-29T08:40:35-05:00June 24th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Not my family but funny.;) As an introvert who gets overwhelmed by too much activity and gabbing, it can be difficult to keep tabs on all of my loved ones. It's not that I don't want to, but my energy and patience fail me. It feels self-protective to let calls go to voicemail so I [...]

Do Sensitive People Need Extra Kind and Positive Relationships?

By |2020-02-02T13:50:49-06:00May 20th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Over the last few weeks I've been paying attention to how I feel. I've noticed where and with whom I'm at ease, fully myself and content. As much as I miss the companionship of my man, I've noticed an upbeat change in me since we broke up. I think it's the ability to fully be myself again. I'm [...]

Introvert Returns to Herself : The Beauty of Relating and Feeling Known

By |2016-10-20T18:24:39-05:00May 6th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

In my week of self-nurturing and post-mortem relationship analysis, I figured out I'd strayed from my genuine self in the last year. One observation that surfaced right away was that I hadn't bought or been lost in music for over a year. Like a drowning woman seeking air above the waves, over the last week, I sought music, musicians, stories [...]

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

By |2017-02-03T10:45:45-06:00April 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

A few years ago while engaging in the online dating scene, one intriguing man —a big guy with a blue-collar job and an intellectual mind— brought the term avoidant attachment style to my attention. He and I had one or two dates and several emails filled with interesting and meaningful conversation. We both were huge readers fascinated by personal [...]

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

By |2016-04-01T10:18:40-05:00April 1st, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

artwork by Marcelo Monreal I recently figured out one of my super powers. Introverted intuition. I took a personality assessment (for the millionth time) on the Personality Hacker website and came up an INFJ in the Myers Briggs type indicator. I sincerely go back and forth between INFJ and INFP. I know purists will [...]

Can This Introvert – Extrovert Relationship Be Saved?

By |2016-05-13T15:49:10-05:00March 25th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

There's a theme among my new clients. It is extroverts alone after a breakup with an introvert. The extroverts wonder what made their introverted mates leave and if they will ever come back. In the beginning With my new clients, the beginning of the relationship was heady and incredibly satisfying. They spent lots of time together. Their partners were like [...]

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