Photo credit Sylvia Bartyzel via Unsplash I have been on my own since January of 2012. In those six plus years, I've experienced so much. I've dated, loved, dumped and been dumped. The whole time learning how to find a secure partner and how to be a good partner. The whole time experiencing in the [...]
So much of parenting is giving — time, attention, patience, food, guidance, love — incoming emotional sustenance is indispensable for balance. ...Parents need each other for support and replenishment. — Thomas Lewis, MD, Fari Amini, MD, Richard Lannon, MD, A General Theory of Love So much of our emotional well-being depends on the amount of reassurance and [...]
Marriage is hard. Long-term relationships are hard too. I experienced the slow disintegration of my marriage and I've been privy to a few other marriage-in-flames stories, stories where the plane is going down and the relationship won't survive, although it may flame out slowly. It seems the route of choice is often years of hellish tension with barely tolerated tolerance followed [...]
Reflecting on My Youth - Joanne Smoley I can't believe it's been almost a year since Jeff moved out. Didn't we just tell the kids that we make each other sad and we can't stay married? It seems like only yesterday I was having the suckiest New Year's ever. I remember thinking last year in [...]
After we started the divorce process, my ex-husband made the comment, You're the first one over the wall. At the time, I knew of several women who found their marriages deeply unfulfilling and/or unbearable. Even though they were miserable they were afraid to take the leap and end it. Now I wondered if they were watching to see [...]
White gloved servers traverse the dining space, stepping around and between linen covered tables and well-heeled guests. Impressive shrimp dangle from cocktail glasses and decadent chocolate desserts abound. Giant topiary spheres encrusted in twinkly white lights hang from the ceiling on invisible tethers. A highly professional band plays Motown classics as well as current pop tunes. It's December [...]
