The Engaging Introvert: Socializing Admirably with Exes, Extroverts and Complete Strangers

By |2015-11-10T16:58:37-06:00October 18th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , |

I dreaded the end of season party for my son's football team.  I actually lost sleep over it.  Here's why: 1. I didn't know any of the other parents. It was the first middle school team my son had played on and the families came from all different neighborhoods and elementary schools. 2. I was going [...]

A Divorced Introvert: Evolving Not Dissolving Post-Breakup

By |2015-10-24T15:32:02-05:00March 29th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I didn't fall apart during or after the divorce like everyone expected. I was worried as hell about how it would affect our children, scared to death about taking care of everything myself (how would I find the energy?) but ultimately not afraid to be alone.  I knew I was on my way.  I was doing [...]

Sensuality in the Suburbs:Redefining the Norm

By |2015-09-22T16:07:06-05:00November 16th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , |

I know I'm not supposed to talk about it but sex and sensuality are on the tip of my tongue and very often heating up my thoughts. What can I say? My whole being is alive, including my body and its desires.  I'm newly divorced and newly carefree.  I feel like a twenty-something with the wisdom [...]

What It's Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over Pt. 4: Being Alone, Dating and Co-Parenting

By |2015-09-22T16:07:10-05:00June 22nd, 2012|Categories: Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Now That I Am On My Own:  1. I check my purse three or four times before I get out of the car to make sure I have my keys.  I do not want to have to call my ex-husband (has spare set).  I am slightly OCD about this. 2. I'm more aware of my body. [...]

First One Over the Wall:What It’s Really Like to End a Marriage and Start Over

By |2015-10-26T13:43:51-05:00June 1st, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

After we started the divorce process, my ex-husband made the comment, You're the first one over the wall. At the time, I knew of several women who found their marriages deeply unfulfilling and/or unbearable. Even though they were miserable they were afraid to take the leap and end it. Now I wondered if they were watching to see [...]

Power Tools and Empowerment: Every Day a Little Bit Stronger

By |2015-09-22T16:07:12-05:00May 4th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

Doesn't happen overnight but you turn around And a month's gone by and you realize you haven't cried ... I'm busy getting stronger ~ Sara Evans, A Little Bit Stronger You're not helpless!  My mom would say when I hesitated or balked about doing something intimidating to me, like mowing the lawn. Despite her affirmation, I questioned [...]

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