What Happens When Others Need Us Too Much? : The Shadow Side of Sensitives and Idealists

By |2015-09-22T16:06:05-05:00October 10th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  With their talent for identifying with the other person, for slipping into another's skin, Idealists find that building close, loving relationships is the most natural thing in the world… And yet such emotional sensitivity (some would say hypersensitivity) can take its toll, and Idealists have been known to  become upset when these affective ties begin [...]

Ever Get Tired of Validating Your Introversion?

By |2015-09-22T16:06:06-05:00September 19th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

My 14-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter join me in my home office. Their respective buses have just dropped them off after school and now they are sitting in the worn comfy chair and lounging on the scrumptious shag carpet in the private room where I write. With trepidation and excitement I tell Bryce that I am [...]

Sensitive and Introverted Does Not Mean Irrational and Weak: Valuing the Input of the Compassionate and Contemplative

By |2017-12-01T15:55:32-06:00August 22nd, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

We are locking horns again over the way he treats others. His tone demands I argue with him in succinct direct points, show the logic in my beliefs. If I don't or can't, he is superior. But I've been on the ropes for too long. I've spent too much time with the group lately, so many people needing me. I'm strung [...]

Sensation Seeking Badass: The Sexy Side of Being a Sensitive Introvert

By |2018-06-10T14:43:24-05:00August 1st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Sensuality, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I'm reading Anthony Bourdain's book, Kitchen Confidential, and finding myself within the pages. For those of you who don't know anything about Bourdain, he is a traveling TV star, author and chef who describes his young self as a thrill-seeking pleasure hungry sensualist. He rose to international recognition as the author of the book (Kitchen Confidential) that exposed the [...]

Introvert Stops Searching for "The One" and Gets a Life: Being Your Own Amazing Soulmate

By |2016-01-06T09:43:42-06:00July 18th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  What would you do if you knew you were going to be alone for the rest of your life? This is the question Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant journal, posed to his readers. He answered it with something to the effect of (I can't find the darn article, sorry), You would create an amazing career, read [...]

You Don't Have a Bubbly Personality? You're not a High Energy Mom? You're Still Worth Knowing

By |2015-09-22T16:06:09-05:00July 11th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Yeah, this is never going to be me. I've never been the girl who laughs openly and raucously. I don't talk loudly so the whole crowd can hear or have any delusions about being the life of the party. I can't fake enthusiasm. I'm not known for doling out exuberant praise. I don't take up a lot [...]

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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i… Read more
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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
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Shilpa CB
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un… Read more
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