We Are Quiet and We’re OK: Don’t Worry or Try to Change Us, Listening and Thinking Are Our Pleasure

By |2016-10-29T14:40:12-05:00July 10th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I've been on vacation this week. Six days surrounded by six other people, every day. It has been wonderful and relaxing overall but I have made some introvert observations. If you are quiet people do not hesitate to point it out. They ask why you are so quiet and if you are OK. If you talk [...]

Kissing, Creativity and Solitude: An Introvert Finds a State of Flow in Summer's Free for All

By |2015-09-22T16:05:58-05:00June 26th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's summer. My days are chopped up and writing time is elusive. My children are home and my actions are more reactive than self-directed. I miss writing and self-direction. My man has been traveling, entertaining and hosting his family. Our cozy routine of quality time and intimate intimacy has been deconstructed. I miss quality intimacy. Kissing creativity goodbye I [...]

Introvert Parenting Guide: Could You Just Play by Yourself Like I Used To?

By |2015-10-22T15:23:05-05:00December 12th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

  Tree lights and Michael Buble's Christmas CD keep me company in the living room as I thumb through catalogs and read nutrition articles. Jagged guitar riffs seep up through the floor from the basement where my oldest son practices on his new Les Paul. My middle son is putting together a Dollar Store jigsaw puzzle on the [...]

You Don't Have a Bubbly Personality? You're not a High Energy Mom? You're Still Worth Knowing

By |2015-09-22T16:06:09-05:00July 11th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

Yeah, this is never going to be me. I've never been the girl who laughs openly and raucously. I don't talk loudly so the whole crowd can hear or have any delusions about being the life of the party. I can't fake enthusiasm. I'm not known for doling out exuberant praise. I don't take up a lot [...]

Slumber Parties and Kryptonite: Simple Ways to Explain Introversion to Children

By |2015-09-22T16:06:18-05:00August 30th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

My nine-year old daughter is hurt because I don't want her by my side every second of the day. She is happiest interacting with others. My thirteen year old son doesn't understand the word energy when I tell him I get energy from solitude. He asks if I mean excitement or physical energy. For the last few [...]

I’m Sorry I Hurt You in Order to Save Myself: What Introverts Feel but Don’t Always Say

By |2016-04-17T18:31:22-05:00August 23rd, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

He tentatively reaches across the bed with a warm gentle hand and I ... recoil. I just need a few more delicious moments of morning mind.  I need that gauzy, thought- weaving space of nourishing idea play where I breathe fully and smile involuntarily. I need that space where I belong solely to myself. He rolls [...]

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