Dear Introvert, Your Inner World Is Not All That : Boosting Self-Esteem in the Outer World

By |2017-02-23T14:58:47-06:00June 10th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

This spring I've been focused on working on the outside of my house. There are maintenance issues inside as well, but the big projects are happening outside. I had the deck re-stained. I'm having the shake re-painted and we're cleaning up the landscaping. This outside works runs parallel with my new views on living and loving. I [...]

Sensitive Introverts Need Space AND Responsiveness

By |2017-01-26T08:06:56-06:00May 27th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I've been thinking about space lately. Now that my man is gone, there is more space in my life. Sometimes that feels energizing and free. Other times it feels empty and heavy. It so happens that this week my children are spending extra time with their dad. I miss them. My home has too much space [...]

Do Sensitive People Need Extra Kind and Positive Relationships?

By |2020-02-02T13:50:49-06:00May 20th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Over the last few weeks I've been paying attention to how I feel. I've noticed where and with whom I'm at ease, fully myself and content. As much as I miss the companionship of my man, I've noticed an upbeat change in me since we broke up. I think it's the ability to fully be myself again. I'm [...]

Sensitive Introvert Alone Again: Turning the Light Inward for Now

By |2016-04-29T20:07:35-05:00April 29th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I'm not sure where to begin this week's post. I'm in a low place. The relationship with my man ended last week. I'm sad over the breakup. My children are sad over the breakup. I'm sad I hurt him. The weather has been dark, rainy and dreary for days. Prince died (and I live in Minneapolis). My heart [...]

Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner : The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart

By |2016-08-01T07:50:15-05:00April 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This week, I learned my number one need in a relationship. I think many of you will relate. At the end of the day, after running around trying to get everyone's physical and emotional needs met, after the work, after the stress, after reconciling the good and the bad news, after establishing and maintaining boundaries,  after [...]

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

By |2016-04-01T10:18:40-05:00April 1st, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

artwork by Marcelo Monreal I recently figured out one of my super powers. Introverted intuition. I took a personality assessment (for the millionth time) on the Personality Hacker website and came up an INFJ in the Myers Briggs type indicator. I sincerely go back and forth between INFJ and INFP. I know purists will [...]

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