One of the most useful things I've learned over the last few years is that it is better to aim for understanding versus winning when it comes to disagreements with the ones we love. For many years — including those competing with my sister for attention and respect and those competing with my ex-husband for most [...]
photo credit Ib Wira Dyatmika Every relationship has times of disconnection. These times are not concerning unless 1. They are constant and highly stressful or 2. There are no repairs made. In fact, relationships where there are ruptures in connection but consistent and quick repairs, tend to have the most resilience. Disruptions in therapy or [...]
I believe most people are good. This belief may be due to the upbringing and life experiences I've encountered. It may be because I have a learned habit of reframing most experiences to highlight the positive. Whatever the reason I know not everyone agrees with me. I had a long-term love who openly declared he [...]
Without ways to strengthen the mind — to build the resilience that comes with being present, with being mindful —we are at risk of becoming overwhelmed in the moment, and of burning out in the long run. — Dr. Dan Siegel, The Mindful Therapist Presence is an actively receptive state. It means being aware of what [...]
Emotions can consume introverts. Elation and euphoria are felt intensely and deeply, so are disappointment and devastation. The sparkly, glittery great times are not a problem, of course. It's the frustrating, overloaded, on-the-way-to-overwhelm times, that trip us up. I am a firm believer that we are responsible for our own well-being. I've written about making your own [...]
