Stories for and about those who recharge in solitude and feel life deeply.

Sensitive Introvert Alone Again: Turning the Light Inward for Now

By |2016-04-29T20:07:35-05:00April 29th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I'm not sure where to begin this week's post. I'm in a low place. The relationship with my man ended last week. I'm sad over the breakup. My children are sad over the breakup. I'm sad I hurt him. The weather has been dark, rainy and dreary for days. Prince died (and I live in Minneapolis). My heart [...]

Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner : The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart

By |2016-08-01T07:50:15-05:00April 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This week, I learned my number one need in a relationship. I think many of you will relate. At the end of the day, after running around trying to get everyone's physical and emotional needs met, after the work, after the stress, after reconciling the good and the bad news, after establishing and maintaining boundaries,  after [...]

How do you beat overwhelm and get to calm and focused? New free ebook by Andy Mort

By |2016-05-05T11:32:23-05:00April 22nd, 2016|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People|Tags: , , , |

Hello Gentle Readers, How do you keep focused on what's most important to you when you're stressed and overwhelmed by the noise, chaos, and busyness of life? I don't know about you, but it's always been a challenge for me…and it’s not getting any easier. We face increasing distractions in our lives; things that constantly seek [...]

Introvert Relationships: Avoidant Attachment Style and Introversion

By |2017-02-03T10:45:45-06:00April 15th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

A few years ago while engaging in the online dating scene, one intriguing man —a big guy with a blue-collar job and an intellectual mind— brought the term avoidant attachment style to my attention. He and I had one or two dates and several emails filled with interesting and meaningful conversation. We both were huge readers fascinated by personal [...]

Introverts and Perfectionism: How Far Will You Go to Avoid Criticism?

By |2016-03-31T18:23:07-05:00April 8th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Photo: ABTofficial via Instagram Do you feel like what you do is never good enough? In school, did you procrastinate on turning in papers or projects because you wanted to get them just right? Do you worry a lot about disappointing others? If so, you might be a perfectionist like me. I’m an introvert and INFJ personality [...]

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

By |2016-04-01T10:18:40-05:00April 1st, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

artwork by Marcelo Monreal I recently figured out one of my super powers. Introverted intuition. I took a personality assessment (for the millionth time) on the Personality Hacker website and came up an INFJ in the Myers Briggs type indicator. I sincerely go back and forth between INFJ and INFP. I know purists will [...]

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live
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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
That courage and dedication you so generously share with the world, has inspired me to push myself a little harder, persevere at each task a little longer, dig a little bit deeper to where the answers just “feel” right to both my humanity AND my spirit. Your insights have reinforced my direction and given me additional tools that help me clear my path. I’m wired into my creativity as never before and the new music is pouring out of me faster than I can record and produce it; this is the Un… Read more
Gary
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
an incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helped
me understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to me
that I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identify
with and allowed me t… Read more
Evan H.
This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
Sharon
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need … Read more
D.R.

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