Seductive Security: Living Without the Protective Embrace of a Committed Relationship

By |2015-10-21T14:13:25-05:00February 24th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

White gloved servers traverse the dining space, stepping around and between linen covered tables and well-heeled guests. Impressive shrimp dangle from cocktail glasses and decadent chocolate  desserts abound. Giant topiary spheres encrusted in twinkly white lights hang from the ceiling on invisible tethers. A highly professional band plays Motown classics as well as current pop tunes. It's December [...]

Reframing Emptiness: Gaining Perspective When a Relationship Ends

By |2015-09-22T16:07:16-05:00January 13th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |

This is it.  The last day we share a home, a closet, a bathroom and utility bills. My husband and I try to look busy as the movers load the last of his things. The men remove the protective padding from the door frames and close up the back of the truck. Jeff (husband) rushes off [...]

How a Sad Life Change Can Make You Extraordinary or Why Crying With Dan Fogelberg Is a Good Thing

By |2015-09-22T16:07:16-05:00January 6th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Popular Posts, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's New Year's Eve 2011, the last time we gather to celebrate as a nuclear family. My soon to be ex-husband hangs out in the study.  The kids alternate between their  Lego creations and banal shows on the Disney Channel.  I scurry around the kitchen trying to put together a festive meal of appetizers.  I love [...]

Best of Space2live 2011: Exquisite Sex, Beautiful Introversion and Passionate Independence

By |2015-09-22T16:07:17-05:00December 30th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Space2live came to life in February of this year.  I wanted a venue to post my writing, receive feedback and generally administer self-therapy.  I needed a foundation of work to leap from in order to even consider writing for a living. I wanted to improve and shape my writing. I wanted to see how consistent I [...]

Pay Attention. Reflect. Be. The Essence of Space2live and a Letter of Love to My Dad.

By |2015-09-22T16:07:17-05:00December 23rd, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I'm using space this week to write a letter of love to my dad.  It was his birthday on Wednesday. To prepare for this writing I immersed myself in memories and music my heart entwines with him. Many of the lessons my dad taught me serve as the foundation for space2live.  My dad never told me [...]

Who Could You Be if Someone Fiercely Championed You?

By |2015-09-22T16:07:17-05:00December 9th, 2011|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

The champion's confidence in you fortifies you against the destructive judgment that can come from both without and within... ~ Jonathon Fields, UncertaintyI feel good about something.  It involves one of those precious, heart-to-heart talks a mom is privileged to have with her twelve-year-old son .  During a recent rap session I said something to my [...]

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