...the theory explains how safety is not the removal of threat and that feeling safe is dependent on unique cues in the environment and our relationships that have an active inhibition on defense circuits and promote health and feelings of love and trust. — Dr. Stephen Porges speaking of the polyvagal theory I take the above quote to [...]
"If we just try hard enough we can avoid all these situations that make us feel so vulnerable." — Caroline McGraw How many of us can relate to the above statement? I know I can. For the longest time, I thought if I do everything just right, no one will call me out or criticize me. [...]
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash People with an avoidant attachment style grew up with caregivers who devalued or avoided emotional and physical closeness. Dependency was denied, leaving the child to figure out ways to self-soothe and regulate their own emotions. When the child reached out for closeness, they were met with disappointment or [...]
Photo by Scott Warman on Unsplash Last Thursday, I had that feeling of impending overwhelm. I looked at my calendar and saw four highly engaging events in a row starting on Friday at 4:15PM and running through Sunday morning. I saw very little downtime between endeavors and lots of being "on". Most introverts or [...]
Photo credit Pixabay What do I believe disconnects us the most from each other? A lack of presence. We have become more and more OK with being in the same room ignoring each other. My sons love to turn on the TV to a Simpson's marathon and then scroll through their phones for the [...]
As 2017 closes out, I want to thank you all for joining me on space2live for another year. It's been an exciting year for me. I've enjoyed writing my book and doing research on such topics as attachment styles and social anxiety. I hope you have enjoyed the topics as well. Are there any subjects I [...]
