We Sometimes Cry in Public Bathrooms: How Introverts Handle Change and Disruptions at Work

By |2015-09-22T16:07:08-05:00September 21st, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

Change in the workplace How’s My Energy? Crabby? It’ll Pass In my early working days of Dilbert-esque jobs in cubicle-laden environments, change was as welcome as a turd in the vending machine.  I’d wrinkle my nose, shake my head and mutter No f*in’ way! under my breath when change was announced. I didn’t find my work [...]

Do You Feel Alone in a Hostile World or Connected in a Compassionate One? An Introvert Looks at Two World Views

By |2015-11-20T16:22:08-06:00August 24th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

  Of course there are times when the Other does not act according to his or her highest values, but nevertheless we need to help people feel safe enough to choose caring over control. ~ Rabbi Michael Lerner When I was a kid I got excited when I found polished stones left in our dirt driveway. [...]

Introverts Do It Passionately and Creatively: How It’s Possible to Love Solitude and Be Popular

By |2017-05-05T17:58:09-05:00April 27th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , |

"Susan Cain is a closet extrovert."  — Unknown So read the juvenile and snarky comment on introvert author and champion, Susan Cain's blog. Susan's heavy presence in the media (TED Talks, NPR, morning shows) during her book promotion (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking) made it seem like she thrived in [...]

Spastic Self-Promotion – A Necessary Evil in Writing and in Life?

By |2015-09-22T16:07:14-05:00March 2nd, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Spacious Artists|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I would give anything to be able to enthusiastically blast my ideas on Facebook, Twitter and Google+ ten times a day. I would kill to tell stories and keep a crowd in stitches with my effervescent nature. I envy those who ooze energy and action. I admire those who get charged up by interaction and stimulation. [...]

Seductive Security: Living Without the Protective Embrace of a Committed Relationship

By |2015-10-21T14:13:25-05:00February 24th, 2012|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

White gloved servers traverse the dining space, stepping around and between linen covered tables and well-heeled guests. Impressive shrimp dangle from cocktail glasses and decadent chocolate  desserts abound. Giant topiary spheres encrusted in twinkly white lights hang from the ceiling on invisible tethers. A highly professional band plays Motown classics as well as current pop tunes. It's December [...]

How To Be Lively, Energetic and Vibrant When Your True Nature Is Thoughtful, Introverted and Reticent

By |2016-07-04T18:35:00-05:00February 17th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

While looking up synonyms for energy, I discovered what I have desired my whole life... VITALITY. Vibrancy, spirit, liveliness. People with vitality are magnetic, exuberant and passionate.  They have oomph, moxie and verve.  They are leaders. They are adventurous. They can do anything. Unless you are a member of my inner circle or tossed back a few [...]

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring… Read more
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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i… Read more
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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
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