Masquerading As Everyone Else’s Expectations: Finding Your True Identity As An Introverted Idealist

By |2016-01-20T14:02:10-06:00September 12th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Seven years ago, I found myself sitting in the waiting area of the music school my son attended for guitar lessons. The school's owner had come out and greeted me with a kind gentle voice and then left. Within the quiet following his departure, I listened to musical notes drifting in from nearby classrooms. I smelled candles burning, their fragrance mixing [...]

Dating Deeply: Will You Go Intimate with Me?

By |2015-09-22T16:06:10-05:00June 20th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

My last relationship ended before it got serious. He stopped putting energy into it before we were fully intimate, fully trusting, deeply involved. In my opinion, it ended on the edge of amazing. I have a desire to go deep. To wander into an intimacy that provides a safe place to be wild, quiet, emotional, sexual and above all, [...]

I Feel People and They Feel Me: The Blessing and Curse of Feeling Deeply

By |2016-02-11T10:18:23-06:00June 13th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I witnessed a lot of pain this week. The kind where people curl up fetally and ache deeply. The kind where they cry until they are numb and limp. People are fragile. Physically, mentally and spiritually. True, people are strong and endure magnificently as well, but this week was about fragility. This week was exhausting. I'd never [...]

Is It Love or Are You Just Filling a Void? Mastering Aloneness and Creating a Real Relationship

By |2017-12-14T15:22:13-06:00April 18th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I experienced a dating drought at the beginning of this year. My phone stopped ringing, my Match.com inbox dried up and I felt untethered. I felt real loneliness for the first time since my ex-husband moved out two years ago. It was strange. My whole being seemed to wither. I contributed meagerly to conversations. Writing ideas were few and [...]

Intuition, Feeling, Men, Myers – Briggs and Snowblowers

By |2016-02-26T15:21:42-06:00December 13th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

My mind is buzzing (in the bad way) about my snowblower situation. The weather clock shows snow for this weekend. The snowblower (or thrower depending on where you are from) I ordered from Sears is in. I simply have to pick it up, prepare it to work and clear my driveway. Rent - a - man? The thought and [...]

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