Finding a Safe Haven with Your Partner : The Sweetness of Not Having to Protect Your Soft Heart

By |2016-08-01T07:50:15-05:00April 22nd, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This week, I learned my number one need in a relationship. I think many of you will relate. At the end of the day, after running around trying to get everyone's physical and emotional needs met, after the work, after the stress, after reconciling the good and the bad news, after establishing and maintaining boundaries,  after [...]

Introverts and Perfectionism: How Far Will You Go to Avoid Criticism?

By |2016-03-31T18:23:07-05:00April 8th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Photo: ABTofficial via Instagram Do you feel like what you do is never good enough? In school, did you procrastinate on turning in papers or projects because you wanted to get them just right? Do you worry a lot about disappointing others? If so, you might be a perfectionist like me. I’m an introvert and INFJ personality [...]

Intuitive Introverts with Action Oriented Partners: Getting Your Connection Needs Met

By |2016-04-01T10:18:40-05:00April 1st, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

artwork by Marcelo Monreal I recently figured out one of my super powers. Introverted intuition. I took a personality assessment (for the millionth time) on the Personality Hacker website and came up an INFJ in the Myers Briggs type indicator. I sincerely go back and forth between INFJ and INFP. I know purists will [...]

Two Secrets to Stamina and Resilience for Sensitive Intuitive Introverts

By |2017-11-26T13:38:21-06:00March 18th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

As a sensitive introvert, I often feel slightly hindered by my lack of ability to hang for long periods of time in the fast paced, productivity based, always ON, highly stimulating, world. I wish my psyche could handle multiple streams of stimulation coming at me (Ex. several people talking, radio on, phone beeping). I wish I [...]

Figuring Out Your Triggers for a Rich Life: How the Flow State Sparks Intrinsic Motivation

By |2016-05-19T08:58:12-05:00March 11th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Journey Frontiers album Journey's Frontiers album plays as I lie on my bed upstairs in my corner bedroom. It's the summer before my freshman year in high school and I recently experienced my first real kiss. As Steve Perry sings "Send Her My Love", my mind recreates the scene at Lumberjack Park inside the small Plymouth [...]

Fulfillment Eluding You in Relationships and Work? What to Do About That

By |2016-03-05T07:45:10-06:00March 4th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I live to get lost in books, websites, podcasts and research about personal development, relationships and optimal psychology. Other kids used to complain about having to sit through a lecture in school. I love lectures, listening and sitting. I move into the deep thinker's flow state when I read, do research and learn new things. My inner critic [...]

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