Fulfillment Eluding You in Relationships and Work? What to Do About That

By |2016-03-05T07:45:10-06:00March 4th, 2016|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I live to get lost in books, websites, podcasts and research about personal development, relationships and optimal psychology. Other kids used to complain about having to sit through a lecture in school. I love lectures, listening and sitting. I move into the deep thinker's flow state when I read, do research and learn new things. My inner critic [...]

Dear Sensitive Introvert: You Are Enough, You Are Lovable

By |2015-09-28T08:01:08-05:00September 25th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Picture The Great Gatsby in the mountains. My man and I traveled to Montana for a spectacular weekend of lavish meals, sparkling socializing, serious hiking and serene fly-fishing. The first two days were mind-blowing. My brain buzzed joyfully and my body happily went along for the ride. By the third day my bright-eyedness started to wane. The constant presence of people [...]

Sensitive Introverts In Long-Term Love, It's Possible

By |2015-09-22T16:05:55-05:00September 11th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Reader comment on space2live I, too, wondered if I was capable of finding and keeping love. After all, my marriage ended, I can be emotional, I need solitude [...]

Please Don't Watch, Observe or Scrutinize Me:Too Much Attention Makes This Introvert Nervous

By |2015-09-22T16:06:00-05:00March 6th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Cooking with your mate can be a loving and sensual experience. My guy and I usually sizzle in the kitchen but one time our interactions were a little burned and crispy. One sunny morning, I tried a new recipe involving poached eggs and smashed avocado on toast. I decided to go the simple route by foregoing the egg-poaching pan and [...]

It Takes a Village, Even for Introverts: Diffusing the Pressure of Being Everything to Your Mate

By |2015-09-22T16:06:02-05:00January 30th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

  We sit around the wooden kitchen table laughing our asses off. The Happy Birthday banner hangs over the window. The smell of homemade chicken soup lingers in the air. There are seven of us gathered for this casual party. We play Cards Against Humanity and find out just how sick and lewd we truly are. [...]

Does Your Partner Need a Lot of Space? Introvert or Just Not That Into You?

By |2015-10-19T11:58:05-05:00January 10th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

Do you want to be with me or would you rather be alone?  Many of space2live's extroverted readers have asked this question in various forms. How much alone time do I grant the introvert before it ceases to be a relationship? Her space is hurting our intimacy. What about me? We only see each other once [...]

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
C.M.
During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
Megan
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
Jimmi Langemo
Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …
D.R.
Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie
For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i…
Niko
Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
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