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What Happens When You Take an Introvert to an Exquisite Party? The Before, During and After Effects of Socializing Gallantly

By |2015-12-03T11:26:53-06:00December 26th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

Getting there Was I dressed appropriately? My date said, Jeans and a nice sweater, but it was a holiday party at a grand home on Lake Minnetonka with live music provided by a one-of-a-kind Steinway and an upright bass. That sounded like old-school cocktail attire to me. I wore a tasteful red cardigan with a pair of expensive jeans [...]

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Letting Love Breathe: The Space That Makes an Introvert Relationship Erotic and Playful Again

By |2015-10-21T14:07:07-05:00December 19th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

... the key to reviving romance in a long-term relationship isn’t necessarily to bring one’s partner closer but to let love breathe. Desire, Perel says, needs air. Romance is more exciting when we let our partners become a little unfamiliar to us again. — Terri Trespicio of Experience Life quoting couples therapist and author of Mating In [...]

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Introvert Parenting Guide: Could You Just Play by Yourself Like I Used To?

By |2015-10-22T15:23:05-05:00December 12th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

  Tree lights and Michael Buble's Christmas CD keep me company in the living room as I thumb through catalogs and read nutrition articles. Jagged guitar riffs seep up through the floor from the basement where my oldest son practices on his new Les Paul. My middle son is putting together a Dollar Store jigsaw puzzle on the [...]

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Is It Possible to Be Steadfast In an Introvert Relationship? Trading Alone Time for a True Partnership

By |2016-02-12T08:47:36-06:00December 5th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I once read an article in Elephant Journal about a woman who claimed all she needed was a good f*ck and someone to pick her up from the airport. Now that, is keeping it simple. I think of her every time I park my car in long-term parking at the airport. Practical and helpful equals dull, not deep, right? [...]

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What Would You Tell Your Younger Introverted Self?

By |2015-10-24T08:45:12-05:00November 28th, 2014|Categories: Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , |

Dear Gentle and Incredible Readers, I spent my energy this week speaking to high school students about self-awareness and helping and hanging out with family for the Thanksgiving holiday. My sister, brother-in-law and I moved my mom into an assisted living facility. The week was exhilarating and emotional. I'm so grateful for all the wonderful people [...]

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Why Extroverts Like Action and Introverts Like Calm: The Brain Chemistry Behind Introversion and Extroversion

By |2015-10-19T12:47:02-05:00November 21st, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

    Ever wonder why some people require thrills and action in order to get engaged in life while others are content reading a book, listening to music or staring at artwork? What physiologically makes an introvert an introvert and an extrovert an extrovert? There is more to the introvert/extrovert comparison than how each one socializes. It's in your [...]

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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
Sharon
I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
Guerin Moorman
Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone.  — Indepthwoman  on space2live
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your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live
Sherrie
You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo
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“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would… Read more

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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB
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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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Your words are my lifeline.  I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow.  Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto.  And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need … Read more
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For the first time in my life I could truly explain, through your words the way in which I experience life and myself. Brenda… It all fell into place. I had found myself and had such a moment of clarity. It felt like such a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Finally I felt like it was ok to be me. I was not the only one. I had found people and a little space where I fit in. … I was at work and crying on the inside. Emotions ran wild inside me. I was ecstatic, sad, confused, motivated, i… Read more
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