When Time is Fragmented, Introverts Stress Out

By |2017-11-05T15:33:57-06:00August 11th, 2017|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

846-02792532 © ClassicStock / Masterfile I have a client who thrives while moving from one task to the other, often without planning or time in between jobs. He likes having different jobs thrown at him at different times. He rolls with the changes and the barrage of details to be handled. His wife feels [...]

We’re Stressed Therefore We Micro-Manage?

By |2016-11-18T14:39:11-06:00November 18th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I walked down the hallway of a local elementary school. The smell of school lunches, pencils and tempera paint embedded the walls and low-pile carpet. As I looked for my assigned first-grade classroom, a boy (4th grade maybe) made eye-contact with me, smiled and said, "Hi, how are you today?" I resisted the urge to look behind me [...]

Politics Getting to You? Dealing with Conflict and Hostility as a Highly Sensitive Person

By |2016-10-14T15:36:01-05:00October 14th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I dared to jump on Facebook for a bit on Saturday. Minutes into my perusal, I found myself scanning down the comments on an update of the only person I've ever considered un-friending. This person's language and people bashing have turned my stomach on a few occasions. Today was no different. The thread on their post was full [...]

7 Triggers of Over-stimulation and Over-sensitivity: How to Manage Them So You Can Be With People

By |2015-09-22T16:05:56-05:00September 4th, 2015|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

NY Magazine We rode along the Dakota Trail near the shoreline of Lake Minnetonka. My man and I rode out front on his fun red tandem bike. My kids trailed behind us like teenage ducklings. We waved and rang our bells at neighbors we passed and strangers who smiled. The sun shone through the trees overhead and a cool [...]

How to Remedy Anxiety and Stress When You’re an Introverted Feeling Type

By |2015-10-21T12:46:03-05:00February 7th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Anxiety reared her ugly uninvited head recently. I thought she'd been sent packing by my relaxed self-guided lifestyle and spiffy low-sugar diet but noooooo… She wakes me at 4AM with adrenaline shots and racing thought chasers. Like a resentful relative she reminds me of every stressful situation I have brewing. Anxiety is a bad old friend. [...]

Exhausting Perfection I'm Breaking Up with You

By |2015-09-22T16:07:03-05:00January 11th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I’ve experienced the most delicious freedom over the last few months. The interesting thing is I still have the same responsibilities and reasons to stress, maybe more now, but something is different. It’s not like this freedom, this peace, was not previously available .  It was always there. Imperfect in Suburbia The difference is I no longer [...]

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