Introvert Exhausted: Counteracting the Drain of Emotions, Sugar and People

By |2015-10-21T12:55:52-05:00May 16th, 2014|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

My mind is cottony and my body feels like slabs of brisket. My energy is flickering like a wet flame. I am pushing through my day because I have to. There is no rest time in sight. The calendar and to- do list are full and people need/want me. I'm in introvert DOA mode. I'm here [...]

Solitude: What It Takes to Complete Work and Complete You

By |2015-09-22T16:06:14-05:00January 24th, 2014|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Alone again. I feel I've come full circle from January 2012 when I was newly single and aching for personal expression and independence. I had an aliveness that vibrated subcutaneously, poised to spill out from my smile.  I wanted to take classes, write, read, travel, nurture friendships, figure out Brenda, be seen as Brenda. Sometimes being seen [...]

Intimacy and Solitude Interrupted: Why We're Weary and Worn Out

By |2015-09-22T16:06:18-05:00September 13th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships, Sensuality|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

“What makes lovemaking and reading resemble each other most is that within both of them times and spaces open, different from measurable time and space.” ― Italo Calvino It had been a month since we sat legs touching on the couch. It had been a month since I last kissed him at the corners of his [...]

Video: The Space We Need: An Introvert Wakes Up, Slows Down and Starts Living According to Her True Nature

By |2015-09-22T16:06:19-05:00August 16th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Don't explain your philosophy. Embody it. ~ Epictetus Something new for space2live... a short film (5 minutes, it's worth it).  A visual to enhance the many words spilled on the pages of this site. Through filmmaker, Nic Askew's, beautiful lens the experience, rather than the explanation, of an introvert is captured and shared in a soul [...]

The Introvert’s Love Affair with Solitude: Will It Always Be Taboo?

By |2017-01-18T14:29:56-06:00August 9th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago.  I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband.  A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

Confessions of an Introverted Parent

By |2015-10-19T12:30:52-05:00June 14th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I'm ashamed I have to white-knuckle it through summer.  Summer is supposed to be carefree and super sunny smiley, right? As I've mentioned before, socializing and stimulation are big energy expenders for introverts.  We may love the company and excitement of a gathering or activity but afterward solitude will be sought in order to recharge. When [...]

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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best… Read more
Sharon
Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted.  I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring… Read more
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I think I want to print out your articles and hand them out as a sort of relationship waiver form. “You want to be my friend?….You are interesting in going out? Here read this first. Sign here to acknowledge that you have read and understand the enclosed material. Thank you.” Seriously. I think it would work. — Guerin Moorman
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I met Brenda and took the MBTI… I had a fairly good understanding of these types before the meeting but was impressed by the depth of knowledge that Brenda shared with me. She clearly has a passion for this work and a gift in imparting the information. There have been doors opened for me because of our talks… — Alan Hintermeister
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“I was struggling with my daughter (16 at the time) and our constant fighting. You said something to me that changed my life! You were speaking about your own situation and you said to me “my child could not handle my emotions”. This was a HUGE “lightbulb moment” for me and it forever changed the way I dealt with my emotions when I was around my daughter!

I am happy to say that things have never been better between my soon to be 18 year old daughter and myself! I honestly never thought we would… Read more

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Brenda has truly opened up a space for introverted types on the ‘net, and her self-revelations are always inspiring. Her voice is one I always look forward to. She is one of the writers that actually played a part in my return to writing.  — S.E. of Sunflower Solace Farms
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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years.  Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space.  I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live
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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s website
and reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the best
decisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understood
what it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda does
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BRENDA: thank you SO much! Your advice is exactly what I need to do. I am amazed how much you “get” me after only exchanging a few messages!… Again, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve helped me more than a year of therapy sessions! – Megan on space2live
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