A Divorced Introvert: Evolving Not Dissolving Post-Breakup

By |2015-10-24T15:32:02-05:00March 29th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Processing Divorce, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I didn't fall apart during or after the divorce like everyone expected. I was worried as hell about how it would affect our children, scared to death about taking care of everything myself (how would I find the energy?) but ultimately not afraid to be alone.  I knew I was on my way.  I was doing [...]

Introverts Explained: Why We Love You But Need to Get Away From You

By |2016-07-04T16:03:56-05:00March 22nd, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , |

I am told our desire to get away from everyone every now and again and again is perplexing and sometimes painful to extroverts. They don't understand how we could enjoy being alone, period. Even more confusing, we sometimes choose to be away from people we really like. The truth is we see all people as stimulation [...]

In Love With Possibilities, Beholden to Reality

By |2015-09-22T16:07:01-05:00March 15th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I am an introverted Pisces dreamer big-picture kind of woman. I could while away hours daydreaming about traveling in foreign lands, meeting a beguiling stranger on a midnight train, writing a bestseller and championing lost souls. I am most content when I am available to possibilities. Possibilities in Love Deeply Single: A state of perceiving the [...]

The Funk of Following: The Spirit of Spearheading

By |2016-06-07T11:54:21-05:00February 22nd, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

A former hairstylist of mine once said, When a client comes in wanting a new hairstyle, I always know there are changes brewing in their everyday life as well. So… when I decided to grow my hair out a titch and skip a haircut I had a feeling change was in the air. Over the last few months [...]

The Introvert’s Love Affair with Solitude: Will It Always Be Taboo?

By |2015-10-19T11:31:46-05:00February 15th, 2013|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago.  I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband.  A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

Giving Up Season: When Overwhelming Obligations Plague Your Space to Live

By |2017-03-30T17:08:59-05:00January 25th, 2013|Categories: Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Run through midnight dunes with sparklers or lie down on the dark shore and let life wash over you? Here it is again, giving up season. No, I'm not talking about Lent.  I'm talking about one of those phases in which we feel defeated by the overwhelming requirements of life. It's when you find yourself constantly [...]

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