Avoidant Attachment and Caregiving

By |2020-12-10T12:22:07-06:00December 11th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Guest Posts, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

It seems like I have written more personal update posts this year than ever before. Well, here comes another one. Last week my husband had triple bypass surgery. We found out two weeks prior that he had five significant blockages in his arteries. Needless to say, we were thrown into a bit of a tizzy. He [...]

How to Support and Respect an Introvert: A Family Rules! TV Interview

By |2020-11-27T13:57:04-06:00November 27th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Popular Posts, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Hi Everyone! As promised, here is my television interview on Family Rules!. I was nervous watching myself but my family said I did a great job and they are not biased at all. ;) In the interview the host Brooke Walker and I talk about: 1. Introversion and the highly stimulating world of today 2. [...]

Political Divisiveness Reminder of Family Wounds

By |2020-11-06T15:27:00-06:00November 6th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

I am writing this post on election day. No numbers have been released yet. All is quiet in Minneapolis, for now. I awoke this morning with an uneasy feeling. The feeling stems from a fear that the divisiveness in the United States will erupt tonight and in the days that follow. For many months, I've thought [...]

Joy Doesn’t Need Perfection: Adventures in Special Education

By |2020-10-29T16:42:36-05:00October 30th, 2020|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

When I was a young girl of about six or seven, my dad invited some of his friends over to our home. The couple that visited brought their daughter Hazel Ann with them. Hazel Ann had Down Syndrome. My sister and I were afraid of her. She did not talk, just grunted. She chased us around [...]

What Emotional Sensitivity Looks Like

By |2020-10-22T16:08:28-05:00October 23rd, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  My sensitivity is more emotional than physical. Unfamiliar or disagreeable sounds, tastes and textures do not generally ruin my day. My husband may beg to differ. I do like it pitch dark and silent at night for sleeping, but my waking hours are not plagued by discomfort or high sensitivity to physical items. I used [...]

The Difference Between Safe and Comfortable

By |2020-10-14T12:21:31-05:00October 16th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety and Depression, Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

My friend, Kimber, said it is better to make a partner or child feel safe than make them feel comfortable. "What is the difference?" I asked. She said, "If someone feels safe, they can be vulnerable. If we strive to only make them comfortable, they never have to be vulnerable."

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