Going Deep Makes Us Happier

By |2017-10-08T19:18:56-05:00March 24th, 2017|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Decades of research stemming from Csikszentmihalyi's original ESM (experience sampling method)  experiments validate that the act of going deep orders the consciousness in a way that makes life worthwhile. — Cal Newport, "Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World" Some of you may recognize the name Csikszentmihalyi from my posts on the flow state. [...]

Introversion Isn’t Something to Fix

By |2017-08-20T15:21:17-05:00May 13th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Coaching, Personal Evolution, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I've come up against some bad old conceptions of introversion recently. I thought we had done a good job spreading awareness about what it really means to be an introvert and why our nature is valuable, but the misconceptions still remain. Jenn Granneman of Introvert, Dear ran into someone at a blogger's workshop who, once they found [...]

Figuring Out Your Triggers for a Rich Life: How the Flow State Sparks Intrinsic Motivation

By |2016-05-19T08:58:12-05:00March 11th, 2016|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Intuitive Living, Parenting, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Journey Frontiers album Journey's Frontiers album plays as I lie on my bed upstairs in my corner bedroom. It's the summer before my freshman year in high school and I recently experienced my first real kiss. As Steve Perry sings "Send Her My Love", my mind recreates the scene at Lumberjack Park inside the small Plymouth [...]

Kissing, Creativity and Solitude: An Introvert Finds a State of Flow in Summer's Free for All

By |2015-09-22T16:05:58-05:00June 26th, 2015|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's summer. My days are chopped up and writing time is elusive. My children are home and my actions are more reactive than self-directed. I miss writing and self-direction. My man has been traveling, entertaining and hosting his family. Our cozy routine of quality time and intimate intimacy has been deconstructed. I miss quality intimacy. Kissing creativity goodbye I [...]

I'm Sick of Myself and Other Things I Never Thought I'd Say

By |2015-09-22T16:07:05-05:00November 30th, 2012|Categories: Emotions and Energy, Introverts and Highly Sensitive People, Personal Evolution|Tags: , , , , , , |

I once heard Brad Pitt say, Having children takes the focus off yourself, which I'm really grateful for. I'm so tired of thinking about myself. I'm sick of myself.  At the time, I was just entering the mystical realms of conscious self-reflection and writing.  I thought, How could anyone be sick of themselves? There is so much [...]

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