Are you a giver or a taker? Deeply think about this. Do you often give to others without an agenda for reciprocation? Or do you make sure you are the winner in every transaction? Or are you a matcher, someone who gives as much as they get and maintains equanimity in their interactions? As I read [...]
I didn't fall apart during or after the divorce like everyone expected. I was worried as hell about how it would affect our children, scared to death about taking care of everything myself (how would I find the energy?) but ultimately not afraid to be alone. I knew I was on my way. I was doing [...]
As the core values of space2live crystallize, I discover myself. In 2011's Best Of post, I stated my intention to be more open in my 2012 writing. I succeeded. I let my sensuality slip out from behind the ornate dressing screen. I revealed my divorce story, despair and all. I admitted my weaknesses and shortfalls when [...]
A reverie of childhood: I lie in the double bed where I suspect Grandma sleeps when I am not visiting. The nubby white bedspread is turned down and rests like a lightweight dog on my feet. I’ve read a chapter or two in my Judy Blume book and turned out the goose necked lamp. [...]
Not a FIGHTER. Be my friend, lover or family member but please don’t be my competitor. I will run from you if I feel you are in any way interested in one-upping me. This is the ultimate turn off for me. I will not relax in your presence. I understand that competition is invigorating [...]
As an introvert, there have been countless times when someone else got the job/attention/raise/praise/boyfriend because they were quicker on their feet, vibrantly outgoing, tireless and more aggressive than me. If you lose out enough times, you start to feel inadequate or incompetent. There’s a fair amount of shame that goes along with feelings of incompetence. I [...]
